Do it leisurely as parents

Author: Yan Xingfang
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: Imagine more and more young people are reluctant to marry, unwilling to have children after marriage, require property agreements before tying the knot, and explicitly state their unwillingness to live with the elderly. For them, whether the family thrives or not is simply not within their considerations. They pursue more independence, personal development, future growth opportunities, and their own interests. Therefore, in the long journey of life, everyone's direction will be different, and it should be different. Even if they are moving in the same direction, there have been countless examples throughout history and across cultures of those who caught up later. The key is to lay a solid foundation from a young age, strengthen their qualities, learn how to be a person and how to do things, and focus on improving their sustainable development capabilities. On the other hand, if one only fixates on a child's exam scores or rankings, or even keeps dwelling on "past issues," it is simply too short-sighted. If they start late by half a beat or stumble in the middle, shouldn't they be given more encouragement and cheers, with a loud "Come on!"? Losing at the starting line doesn't mean they will never recover; otherwise, the rules of the game would need to be changed—don't look at who reaches the finish line first, but who leaves the starting point first! Besides, how many in the long race of life aren't just there to participate? In conclusion, if families and schools truly want what's best for the children, they should have such a mindset and qualities: less eagerness for quick results, more serendipity; less forcing growth, more guiding with the flow; less imposing on others, more putting oneself in their shoes. If this is the case, everyone will live happier and more successful lives.