Couple communication in the kitchen

Author: Raymond
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Publish Date: 2006-12-01
Features: On a Friday night, the whole family was preparing to go out. The two older teenagers and the youngest who had just started elementary school had agreed to go see a science fiction movie. And Friday was traditionally the day the father went bowling. As for the mother, she was supposed to go to the church to help set up the venue for the wedding that would be held the next day. So after finishing dinner at half past six, the whole family rushed out one after another, taking different paths, "each pursuing their own way." About three hours later, the mother, exhausted, came out of the church, sat on the bus, and was just about to close her eyes to rest when suddenly, an idea flashed into her mind! The pile of dishes in the kitchen! When leaving home in the evening, everyone didn't have time to clear the table and rushed out. The dining table in the kitchen was covered in dishes. Thinking of this, the mother's sleepiness vanished. On the way home, she kept calculating whether it would be better to roll up her sleeves and wash the greasy dishes, or take a bath and go to bed first, leaving it for tomorrow. The thought of having to face the pile of things in the dishwasher upon waking up at dawn was truly demoralizing. She decided to deal with them immediately as soon as she got home.
The mother, with tired steps, climbed to the third floor, took out the keys, opened the door, walked into the living room, set down her purse, and went into the kitchen. She looked up suddenly and exclaimed, "What on earth is this?" She couldn't help but stand frozen, unable to believe her eyes: the dining table was spotless, the dishwasher was empty, and the dishes were neatly arranged in the cabinets. She quickly turned around, rushed out the door, and checked the house number. It was correct—her own home. She went back inside, opened the back door of the kitchen, and just saw her husband hanging the washed towels one by one on the clothesline—happiness starts in the kitchen. Amazing, isn't it? Hearing this left her speechless. This is the main content of this book—the happiness in marriage indeed starts in the kitchen, not as the old saying goes, "To please a man, first fill his stomach," but rather for the husband to be considerate of his wife's hard work and actively help her wash the mountain of dishes; or for the wife to see her husband watching the live sports broadcast with great enjoyment and not interrupt his pleasure, while carrying the heavy trash bag downstairs; or for her to combine her salary with her husband's income to jointly create the family budget—not divided, "my money and his money" (or the more common phrase: "my money and our money"); or for childcare to be the responsibility of both, not "her thing." A happy marriage is built on the ideal premise that "my spouse should be my life's priority." In other words, a fulfilling marital relationship should be rooted in mutual pleasure, emotional and sexual needs—sensitivity to understand and appropriately fulfill them. This book aims to emphasize that spouses must love each other, share their personal feelings and thoughts, and become one physically and emotionally. Unfortunately, most married people live a "married single" life. Many couples, after the bedroom door is closed, nothing happens. Even when they have sex, it feels like a chore or an obligation, rather than the ultimate culmination of deep affection, care, understanding, and unity between the two throughout the day.