Patient's question:
My wife and I stopped sleeping in the same bed after we had a child! Because I need to take care of our son, we haven't had sex together for 5 years! It's not that I don't have needs! It's that my wife says she's unwilling to have sex! I wonder if she became frigid after having the child? She has never demanded anything from me! I want to ask for advice on how to improve our current intimate life? How can I increase her libido?Doctor's answer:
Hello, your wife may have experienced a decrease in libido after having a child. Sexual life is both a physiological need and a natural desire of humans, as well as an integral part of married life. Sex life is the bond that connects the emotions of a couple and is also a sign of a happy love and family. Therefore, the satisfaction of sexual desire should be a shared physiological and psychological experience for both husband and wife. It should not be an obligation one has to fulfill for the other, nor should it be a mere and fulfillment of one's own desires. If one forces intimacy against the partner's wishes, it will inevitably cause the other's resentment and disgust, and it may turn the normal "couple life" into a spiritual burden, even affecting the relationship between the couple. You had better communicate with your wife first.