Women's Encyclopedia - (Illustrated Collector's Edition)

Author: Xiang Changhua / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2006-06-01
Features: Exploring the Mysteries of Sexuality
Seeing this title, you might be shocked—openly talking about sex, how could that be allowed! Don’t panic! Why can’t sex be openly discussed? The problem lies in the angle from which we approach it. As long as we don’t discuss it inappropriately and adopt an angle that pursues sexual health and marital happiness, why can’t sex be openly talked about? Openly discussing sex isn’t our innovation. For years, many social workers (including conservative religious groups) have repeatedly discussed it openly. Why should sex be openly discussed? The answer is simple—because sexual issues have long existed, and avoiding them doesn’t solve the problem. Experts and scholars consistently point out: Sex and sexual behavior are not just about procreation; they are a powerful force that unites men and women. Of course, the power that unites a couple is multifaceted, but “sex” is one of the most important and powerful. Therefore, regarding sexual behavior, we should adopt three correct attitudes:
First, if we don’t make good use of sexual behavior, it can easily lead to social problems, violence, ethical and moral decline, and other issues. Second, properly utilizing sexual behavior can promote marital harmony; many happy families are built on a strong sexual foundation. Third, many people avoid sexual issues, but sexual issues are not special problems, and they cannot be solved by avoidance. Only by understanding them and making good use of them can we find the best solution. So, starting here, let’s explore it together.
Love and Marriage
The sexual relationship in marriage is originally very simple—it is an action where two lovers continuously prove their love and commitment to each other after tying the knot. As long as the primal motivation of mutual need and love is strong enough, this ability to express love will never run out. Unfortunately, most couples, though full of passion in the early days of marriage, inevitably enter a low point of mutual exhaustion over time. The reason for this low point is the neglect of both partners—in the beginning of marriage, they both have fresh and exciting feelings for each other, and it’s natural for their passion to be as intense as fire. But passion inevitably cools. If one cannot continue to please, respect, and accommodate the other, then once the novelty wears off, the couple’s relationship will inevitably decline like a river flowing downhill.
An American lawyer specializing in divorce cases has statistics showing that 90% of divorces are due to failures in sexual life. He believes that if a couple’s sexual life is as strong as glue, their daily conflicts can be easily resolved. Conversely, couples who are not harmonious in sex may fight over trivial matters. On the surface, the reason for divorce may be disagreements, but in reality, sexual incompatibility is the spark that ignites marital breakdown.
So, who is the first to experience fatigue in post-marital sex? Who can reignite the dying embers of love? Most people would think it’s the husband, but the reality is exactly the opposite. P2-3