Be careful, brain hole

Author: Chen Guang / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2006-04-01
Features: Genius Can Be Designed
"The idea of 'raising children to support parents in old age' is an ancient Chinese concept. Do today's children still think about taking care of their parents? No, to be more precise, even if they do, do they really have enough resources to do so? Taking Taiwan as an example. The average monthly salary of a university graduate there is now around NT$20,000 to NT$30,000. With such a salary, housing loans and car loans are already hard to afford. If they have children, the costs of raising and educating them will deplete all their income, let alone having enough money to support their parents. So some jokingly say that instead of 'raising children to support parents in old age,' the phrase should be changed to: 'Raising children, remember to guard against bankruptcy.' However, the story doesn’t have to be so pessimistic. Young department heads in the electronics industry earning millions in annual salaries are commonplace, and wealth inequality has already become a reality. These successful individuals, who earn several times the average salary, also make us ponder: What exactly do geniuses know in the eyes of ordinary people? 'We just need to know what they do, and we can do the same things, and in the end, we can certainly achieve the same level of success.' In fact, genius can be designed. We often see mothers with their bellies showing, following their fathers with happy eyes, imagining their children's future. 'I hope our child becomes a scientist in the future.' 'I hope our child becomes a rich person in the future.' 'I just want our child to be healthy in the future.' 'Nose like you, eyes like me.' No matter what parents expect from their children, as the saying goes in Forrest Gump: 'Before the chocolate is opened, you never know what's inside.' All new parents, whether they are overwhelmed or diligent, are learning and accompanying their children through their growth process.
'Children shouldn’t suffer hardship, and education shouldn’t be neglected'—this is a common saying among parents. For this reason, all parents go to great lengths to enroll their children in prestigious schools, even cutting back on expenses to pay for tutoring, hoping to give their children a prosperous life. Parents really don’t need to be so anxious. As long as you understand the structure of the brain, your child’s future is actually within your grasp.
Guess the flaw in this statement: 'There are so many sands in the ocean, yet only one in a billion has the chance to become a pearl. How many years must a single grain of sand spend inside a clam before it has the chance to shine?' This statement is telling us that success requires suffering and hardship. But is it true that sand that has endured pain and hardship will necessarily become a dazzling pearl? You and I both know the answer. Pearl formation requires favorable conditions both internally and externally—it is a natural process, not a one-sided effort of stuffing sand grains into a clam, which guarantees a beautiful pearl.
The same principle applies to sending children to prestigious schools: will they automatically become useful people? The reality is that 80% of students, even if their parents spend all their savings to provide the best educational environment and the children themselves make the greatest efforts, still fail to thrive in the existing system. Success is actually not as difficult as you think. The reason for failure is simply that we have learned in the wrong order. P3-5