18 Problems That Destroy Chinese Marriages

Author: Kamal
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Publish Date: 2006-04-01
Features: The content of the book is not sensationalized as the title suggests. In fact, it is a positive and meaningful self-help book on marital psychology. The book selects 18 of the most common problems in Chinese marriages, nearly encompassing all factors that affect the happiness of contemporary Chinese marriages. The author spent nearly four years in-depth interviewing dozens of ordinary couples. While listing these marital issues, he strives to analyze the root causes of the problems objectively and proposes constructive and practical analyses and solutions. People with marital experience reading this book will surely have a complex mix of emotions: resonance, reflection, relief, admiration, and surprise.
The author spent nearly four years in-depth interviewing nearly 100 couples and then selected 18 representative couples to face the problems they encountered. The book adopts an oral record format, allowing both spouses to express their views from their respective perspectives. These individuals include civil servants, high-level white-collar workers, laid-off workers, and taxi drivers. Almost everyone in a marriage can find their own reflection in them. Through the stories of these couples, we will discover the vast differences in their views on the same issue, almost as if they are heading in opposite directions. Such conflicts caused by a lack of communication are extremely common in Chinese marriages. The process of reading this book is also a process of "putting oneself in another's shoes." You might suddenly realize: Oh, so that's how men (women) think.
The real marital situations of the 18 couples in the book can teach us that there are too many things required for a happy marriage. One should treat marriage as a school for self-improvement, an excellent opportunity for personal growth. This book objectively records the changes in people's emotions and marriages during China's modernization process, making it socially and historically valuable. Each story is not just about revealing family conflicts but also about throwing a stone to stir up the pond, presenting the correct way to analyze the problem in a gentle and insightful manner through the words of a wise woman.