Learn to talk to children

Author: Huang Li
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Publish Date: 2005-06-06
Features: 80 Sentences Parents Should Say and Shouldn't Say! Step into the Inner World of Children Aged 3 to 14 and Be a Competent Parent. The Key to Being a Good Parent is Learning How to Talk to Your Child.
Mistake #1: It's okay for your own child to say whatever they want.
Mistake #2: No matter what I say, the child just doesn't listen!
What You Should Say: "It's up to you to decide." "What you're really trying to say is..." "Why don't you try helping me solve this problem?" "Different people have different needs." "Mom loves you, but Mom doesn't like you doing this."
What You Shouldn't Say: "Don't run, you'll fall." "I was just playing with you." "Tell me the truth." "Why do you get bigger and more disobedient?" "Why can't you be more like Li Li?"
Expert Advice: Parents often say, "No matter what I say, the child just doesn't listen!" But this is completely wrong! It's not that the child doesn't listen—it's that parents haven't mastered the language of effective communication with their child. The Key to Being a Good Parent is Learning How to Talk to Your Child. Learning how to talk to your child can reduce communication barriers, truly understand your child's inner world, and reach consensus on many issues. Otherwise, a deep generation gap will inevitably form between parents and children. Learning how to talk to your child is the first step toward achieving seamless communication with them. When children don't listen to us, it's often because our expressions of good intentions only provoke in them; our self-assured teachings often push them into a corner or make them develop bad habits. The way you choose to express the same idea to your child has a significant impact on them. During communication, whether you're making requests, giving answers, discussing conditions, or reaching compromises, the words you use can either make your child more willing to cooperate and confident or make them feel frustrated and lose faith. Don't think it's okay for your own child to say whatever they want. Parent-child communication, in particular, requires attention to expression. Otherwise, good intentions in the child's heart will turn into deep shackles and rebellion. Mother's love is priceless! Every mother's love for her child is priceless! But unlike most mothers, Tom's mother fully understands the way and art of "transmitting" this love. This way is so powerful that it effortlessly conveys her love for her child in silence, giving them the best nurturing and education.
Parents often say, "No matter what I say, the child just doesn't listen!" But this is completely wrong! It's not that the child doesn't listen—it's that parents haven't mastered the language of effective communication with their child. The Key to Being a Good Parent is Learning How to Talk to Your Child. Learning how to talk to your child can reduce communication barriers, truly understand your child's inner world, and reach consensus on many issues. Otherwise, a deep generation gap will inevitably form between parents and children. Learning how to talk to your child is the first step toward achieving seamless communication with them. When children don't listen to us, it's often because our expressions of good intentions only provoke in them; our self-assured teachings often push them into a corner or make them develop bad habits. The way you choose to express the same idea to your child has a significant impact on them. During communication, whether you're making requests, giving answers, discussing conditions, or reaching compromises, the words you use can either make your child more willing to cooperate and confident or make them feel frustrated and lose faith. Don't think it's okay for your own child to say whatever they want. Parent-child communication, in particular, requires attention to expression. Otherwise, good intentions in the child's heart will turn into deep shackles and rebellion.
Read this book carefully to help every parent step into the inner world of children aged 3 to 14.