Happy woman

Author: Zifu
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Publish Date: 2004-07-01
Features: Be free-spirited, follow nature, keep it simple, and thus become more relaxed. I often hear people say they are fully immersed in something, but I wonder if their mind is truly empty before they commit. If the mind isn’t empty, how can one truly immerse themselves? The teacup is already full of water—how can you add more? With too many thoughts tangled in your mind, how can you focus on the task at hand? Perhaps it’s the same with sex. Let go of all distractions, empty the mind, and then any subtle detail can leave a mark in the heart. Every sensation can be felt with awe. With this approach, would there ever be boredom or dissatisfaction?
The topic of "sex" has finally made its way into polite conversation. In reality, the issue of "sex" is quite simple and straightforward, but people avoid discussing it because it’s an integral part of life. It’s like someone who urgently needs to urinate but feels too embarrassed to say so in front of others. Even if they do say it, they do so hesitantly, "Excuse me." Look, they still feel the need to apologize. Since even the need to urinate is embarrassing to mention, how much more so would a topic as private as sex be when discussed in public? Yet this book insists on addressing this very embarrassment, especially concerning a woman’s sexuality, and women are particularly shy about such matters.
Given this, it’s best to be subtle and speak formally, just like saying "excuse me." This approach appears civilized while still addressing the issue. However, even so, many difficulties arise. Many things are "like describing a thing and missing the mark." Once you say it, you’ll inevitably deviate from the essence of the matter. Words are not the thing itself; descriptions and records are bound to have inaccuracies. This is especially true for sex. After all, people are rarely identical in appearance, let alone in physical structure. So, discussing sex can sometimes feel like trying to scratch someone’s back—always missing the spot, so you resort to scratching in squares and following numbered instructions. But I can’t draw squares for every reader, so I’ll only talk about the surface-level, universal aspects, or historical examples.
Although "describing a thing and missing the mark," how else would one know if it’s truly round or square, or if it hits the mark at all? It’s like the story of pointing at the moon with a finger—the finger is not the moon, but without the finger’s guidance, how would one know it’s the moon?