Goodbye, my cyber lover

Author: Ji Kangbao
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Publish Date: 2004-04-01
Features: Online infidelity is a brand-new form of infidelity phenomenon. Due to the inability to catch the act in the act, it creates a sense of being constantly on guard, making already precarious marital life even more vulnerable. Currently, there are many types of online infidelity. Generally speaking, if one party in an online relationship is married, it is considered online infidelity. According to online surveys, among those who have experienced online infidelity, 76.5% have engaged in physical relationships with their online lovers, such as intimate acts like kissing. Among these, 46% have had sexual relations.
Do people in the city today all feel this kind of sense of weariness: once entangled in online love, it’s hard to go back to water? Online, you are always free, like a naked person rushing into London’s fog in the afternoon—refreshing, at ease, yet with a sense of danger and guilt, because someone wants to spy on you, because you have a different kind of existence. The hands reaching for the mouse and keyboard touch a completely different way of life!
There is a type of online love where the internet is merely used as a tool. The internet provides a larger space and more information for those seeking a romantic partner. They use the internet to talk and fall in love, but in the end, they still exchange photos, listen to each other’s voices, and meet face-to-face. Their online love cannot avoid the physical realm. Because the game’s starting point already determines the outcome. During the journalists’ interviews, some confessed, some had turned back, but there was still this group of people whose distorted desires were like opium—knowing it was wrong yet unable to resist sinking deeper and deeper. Their beautiful bodies searched for repeated descents into oblivion in the days of emptiness.
They are different from one-night stands because it’s not just a physical betrayal. Spiritually, they deeply long for those one or more online lovers, and even when the sun rises, they still don’t want to say goodbye.