Don't worry about trivial matters.

Author: Jerry Minkoff
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: This book lists ten dilemmas in daily life and work. For each scenario, it provides several specific solutions. By analyzing and comparing the drastically different outcomes of these solutions, the author explains the ways and means to achieve the best solutions, points out the flaws in our conventional thinking patterns, guides us to gradually improve our ability to overcome worries and take control of our lives, and ultimately enables us to enjoy a fulfilling and joyful life like a fish in water.
There are countless trivialities and worries in life: to please our family, you have to sacrifice your own needs, repeatedly doing things you don’t want or find inconvenient, yet not knowing how to change this situation; out of consideration for colleagues, you have to lend them money, cover for them, or help them for free, yet not knowing when they will stop exploiting you; out of filial piety, you follow your parents’ wishes and take up a career you don’t enjoy, disregarding your own feelings.
The author Jerry Minkoff tells us that the root cause of these problems lies in our excessive emphasis on others’ approval and undervaluing our own worth, as well as unrealistic expectations of both others and ourselves, leading us to neglect our own responsibilities. To permanently solve these troubles, we need to learn to master truly effective solutions—ones that hold ourselves accountable, maintain our sense of self, and address the root causes of the issues, solving them permanently.
This book lists ten dilemmas in daily life and work. For each scenario, it provides several specific solutions. By analyzing and comparing the drastically different outcomes of these solutions, the author explains the ways and means to achieve the best solutions, points out the flaws in our conventional thinking patterns, guides us to gradually improve our ability to overcome worries and take control of our lives, and ultimately enables us to enjoy a fulfilling and joyful life like a fish in water.