What do you really want - A Survey on the Marriage and Love of the First Generation of Only-Children in China

Author: Yu Xiu
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Publish Date: 2007-01-01
Features: In this book, Yu Xiu, a family quality education expert and renowned writer, presents oral records of the personal experiences and encounters of 12 only children and their parents based on her years of research and interviews. Among them are a middle-aged man who went on nearly 100 blind dates without success, a master's graduate who entered marriage but added to her parents' pressure, a female Ph.D. who married a wealthy man for material wealth only to find that money did not bring happiness, and a boy who never understood the word "loyalty" and caused deep harm to others in relationships. These real-life stories reflect the profound impact and shock that the current uncertain social atmosphere has had on the life philosophies, values, and views on marriage of young people, even their parents. What reflections should we draw from this? What responsibilities should schools, families, and societal opinions bear in addressing the romantic and marital issues of only children? How should parents adjust their educational methods and philosophies to help their children achieve happy marriages and fulfilling lives? I believe that every reader who has read this book will gain insights into life through these vivid examples. Love between people truly continues through mutual giving and receiving. The unique upbringing environment of only children, their lack of exposure to setbacks, the systematic absence of humanities education, the still-developing moral standards in society, and the pursuit of generational evolution all contribute to their growth and moral deviations. The pursuit of material wealth is endless, while youth and life are finite. No matter how brilliant your career may be, you will ultimately return to family and kinship. Before this book was published, one of its chapters was posted on the author's blog and received over 40,000 clicks in a single day. The risks of matchmaking websites and the questionable integrity of the matchmaking industry have led to spontaneous parent meetups in parks for their children's romantic arrangements. Why, after multiple blind dates, do middle-aged men still fail to find their match? Trial marriages have become excuses for some men to frequently change girlfriends. What kind of behavior is this, after all?