What do you want: A Survey on the Marriage and Love of China's First Generation of Only-Children

Author: Yu Xiuzhu
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Publish Date: 2007-01-26
Features: In this book, family quality education expert and renowned writer Yu Xiuzhu, based on years of research and interviews with 12 only children and their parents, narrates their experiences and encounters in personal love and marriage life in the form of oral records. Among them are middle-aged boys who went through nearly 100 blind dates without success, as well as only daughters who entered marriage after graduating with a master's degree but only added to their parents' pressure; there are female doctors who married wealthy men for material pursuit but later found that marrying a rich person does not bring happiness; and there are boys who never understood the word "loyalty" and caused deep harm to others in relationships. These real-life stories reflect the profound impact and shock that the current somewhat unstable social atmosphere has on the life philosophy, values, and views on marriage of the younger generation, even their parents. What reflections should we draw from this? What responsibility should our school education, family education, and even social public opinion guidance bear in the love and marriage issues of only children? How should parents adjust their education methods and philosophies to help their children have happy marriages and a beautiful life? I believe that every friend who reads this book will think deeply about life through these vivid examples. The love between people actually continues through mutual love. The special upbringing environment of only children, their lack of exposure to setbacks, the systematic absence of humanistic education, the social environment with a morality level yet to be improved, and the pursuit of generational evolution all affect their growth and moral deviance. The pursuit of material wealth is endless, while youth and life are finite. No matter how brilliant your career is, you will ultimately return to family and kinship. Before the publication of this book, one of its chapters was published on the author's blog and received over 40,000 clicks in a single day. The risks of matchmaking websites and the questionable integrity of the matchmaking industry have led to spontaneous parent meetups in parks for their children's matchmaking. Why do middle-aged men, despite going through multiple blind dates, still fail to find their match? Trial marriages have become excuses for some men to frequently change girlfriends—what kind of behavior is this?