The Best Women's Bedside Book: Daily Advice You Must Read

Author: Zhao Jing
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Publish Date: 2006-11-01
Features: Be a Smart "Silly Woman" in Social Situations
As the saying goes, "Smart girls are loved by everyone!" But prove shows that overly smart women are not lovable. Although some women are beautiful in appearance, if they are too sharp and speak too bluntly, others will not tolerate them. Some women, when expressing an opinion or refuting others', always speak eloquently and directly, regardless of whether others can handle it. Sometimes, it's just because others have different views on something, or someone makes a knowledge-based or logical mistake during a conversation, and she points it out mercilessly. Especially in crowded settings, when others are in the midst of a lively discussion, she suddenly catches them off guard with a hard-to-answer point, not only spoiling the mood but also making them feel embarrassed. Such women make people uncomfortable. No matter how beautiful a face is, it eventually becomes ordinary after seeing it too much, and an overly sharp personality can only make people keep their distance. In fact, many times, there's no need to be so smart. It's not a business negotiation, nor is it a principle issue—why be so forceful? Even if you have a lot of knowledge, there's no need to show it off every day. Keep it to yourself; if you have musk, it will naturally smell.
Not knowing who Picasso was from which country isn't a big deal either—why force someone into an embarrassing situation? Girls who are highly educated, smart, and beautiful should have no trouble finding a husband. However, their high intelligence often allows them to see through men's sweet words and expose their clumsy tricks, making it hard for them to form romantic relationships. Smart women are perceptive and always strike at the core, leaving no room for escape. Smart women are too threatening; they lack security, so men are afraid of smart women. The most popular ones are probably "silly" little beauties. They are always slightly "dumber" than men. They can understand what men say but pretend to know no more and see no further. Remember, overly smart women are not lovable.
Shed your sharp edges and be a smart woman who knows when to be smart and when to pretend to be silly. But how should one do this? "Pretending to be silly" is a skill. It doesn't mean always "feigning" something—if so, that person would become even sillier than a fool. It's about making timely "pretend-silly" actions for certain needs. "Pretending to be silly" is an art with depth and great skill. In life, use this technique appropriately to seek advantages and avoid harm. In dealing with people and matters, cultivate your insight and discernment from the smallest details. Only when you stand at a certain height to observe people and situations can you grasp opportunities from the bigger picture and find breakthroughs in development. When you thoroughly analyze the causes and effects of a matter and make decisive decisions, using "pretending to be silly" can not only provide a perfect solution but also add delightful flavors to your own and others' lives! Know yourself and others—pretending to be silly isn't silly at all!
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