Patient's question:
Okay, here is the translation, following your instructions:And my sex life with my boyfriend is okay, but I just don't like oral sex. But he happens to like it.
He says that all men like it.
Sometimes when I don't cooperate with him, he gets quite angry and isn't very happy.
I've also looked up some information about oral sex and found that it's not very good for the body either.
When I told him this, he said it's just that I don't want to and that's why I said it.
If anyone knows anything about this, please give me some advice.
Is oral sex harmful or beneficial for both sides in the end?
Thank you!!!!!!
Doctor's answer:
Once upon a time, I was like you, only liking sexual intercourse and not oral sex. But because I loved him, I tried to accept everything. Below are some materials I found online, hoping they will be helpful to you.Currently, how should we view oral sex? Most sexologists believe that as long as it does not completely replace normal sexual intercourse, it is normal. The authors of the American Comprehensive Psychiatry Textbook explicitly state that any sexual behavior that occurs between a married couple and is mutually acceptable to both parties is normal sexual behavior. Physiologically, oral sex is the closest or even exceeds sexual intercourse in some aspects. The oral mucosa is soft and smooth, rich in tactile nerve cells, making it highly sensitive. The tongue is soft, flexible, and has a sense of taste, while the oral muscles are strong, capable of providing powerful and pleasurable stimulation to the penis and also producing significant sexual arousal and pleasure for women. Due to the flexibility of the neck, oral sex can offer different experiences.
From a medical perspective, as long as both partners do not have genital diseases and are clean before sexual activity, there is no issue of hygiene. The association of the penis with urination naturally brings up hygiene concerns. Therefore, oral sex must be based on mutual consent between both partners. As the saying goes, "Forced fruit is not sweet," and neither party should be forced to engage in oral sex. This can backfire and even affect normal sexual intercourse.
Excerpted from "How to View Oral Sex" in "Peace of Mind Medical Garden."