Patient's question:
Our relationship is very good, but after knowing this, both of us have been very hurt. I'm hurt because he feels blocked, and he's hurt because he sees me feeling blocked. I don't want this to continue, hurting him. I really don't want to break up. He's very understanding and doesn't spend money recklessly. He's a good person. I just don't want to lose happiness because I can't let go. Sometimes there's nothing wrong, but other times I feel very uncomfortable. I don't know how to overcome the virginity complex.What kind of help do I need: How to overcome the virginity complex?
Doctor's answer:
In the past, there were quite a few people with a "virgin complex." However, as attitudes toward gender have gradually become more open and premarital sexual behavior has become increasingly normalized among younger people, individuals like you, who are still deeply troubled by the virgin complex and cannot break free from it, have become much fewer in number. Based on your description and follow-up questions, it's clear that you deeply love your girlfriend and are well aware of her first sexual experience. Yet, you simply cannot control your virgin complex and are afraid it will affect your married life. This issue originates from you, and the only way to resolve it is through your own efforts. Here are a few suggestions to help correct your self-esteem issues: