Coping with Extramarital Affair: Love Must Be Self-respecting

Author: James Dobson (USA)
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Publish Date: 2006-01-01
Features: "Love Must Be Respectful" has sold 1.5 million copies in the United States, and Dr. Dobson was called the guardian and motivator of American families by President Reagan. This book will provide an alternative choice for those trapped in family crises. A peaceful marriage, suddenly struck by lightning, your partner has an affair—how would you react? Crying hysterically, throwing things violently? Taking revenge, spreading rumors, putting them in a difficult situation? No! These methods are indeed harsh, but not out of love. Should you compromise and endure? Should you cling tightly to the partner who wants to leave? No! Indulgence leads to destruction. This is weak love! This is harmful! Everything is over? Will you give up your loved one? Hope lies in "Love Must Be Respectful." Open the door of conditional love and tell your partner: You can leave, but you can't play both sides. Love is free, and it is also about self-respect. Only self-respect can reignite the flames of romantic love. This book is dedicated to every man and woman who has relied on their husband or wife in every way but has been rejected and hurt. May this book begin the healing journey for the wounded. The methods provided in this book will enable those rejected to live better by tolerating others, for only with tolerance can there be peace. Almost everyone is now saying, "Love Must Be Respectful." Such a phrase can be seen or heard everywhere we go. Over the past few months, investigative journalists, TV news anchors, and street preachers have all been repeating this phrase. What does self-respecting love mean? Different people interpret it differently. In January 1995, Representative Marcy Kaptur from Ohio, a Democrat, quoted this phrase when she spoke against the North American Free Trade Agreement in the House of Representatives. Later, Representative Luis Gutierrez from Illinois, a Democrat, also quoted it when he proposed a retroactive period limit for his Republican opponent. In fact, a researcher recently found that in the records of the 104th Congress, there were over 100 instances of the phrase "Love Must Be Respectful." And that's just the beginning. But before this expression quickly becomes a common saying among Americans, let us remember this fact: as early as 1983, Dr. James Dobson first introduced the concept in his landmark book on marriage and parenting, "Love Must Be Respectful." He also elaborated on this concept: that mature love relationships should be built on mutual respect and genuine responsibility. Few books have received as much praise and received as many letters from fans as "Love Must Be Respectful." The book has been beloved for many years and has been on the bestseller list for over a decade, winning the Gold Award from the ECPA and saving countless marriages and changing many lives. The insightful analysis and wise advice in the book have moved thousands of men, women, and children. Many of them have written in to express their positive reviews. In a text message to Dr. Dobson, one grateful reader wrote: "The principles you proposed are completely correct. My life is proof!" Another said: "My life will turn over a new page from now on." A third reader excitedly commented: "Your book saved my marriage and my life." The "Family Research Council" office has received letters from all over the world, expressing the readers' heartfelt gratitude for gaining a new perspective and context on life from Dr. Dobson's book. Today, the International Family Research Council, founded by Dr. Dobson to address family issues, broadcasts its radio program to tens of millions of listeners weekly through 1,951 affiliates in the United States and Canada and another 2,000 radio stations worldwide. Through the efforts of about 1,200 male and female employees, the "Family Research Council" has registered over 60 independent branches, published 10 magazines, and distributes 130,000 tapes monthly, publishing an average of 50 books annually. (In 2004, the radio program of the "Family Research Council" had over 200 million listeners and was broadcast on 7,500 radio stations. The numbers listed by the preface author are from that time, the editor notes.) A firm faith is the core of these outstanding works and all areas of the "Family Research Council." As a registered psychologist and former pediatric professor at the University of Southern California, Dr. Dobson has witnessed the pressures of modern life and applied his years of experience to analyzing and treating the causes of American problems. During the terms of three presidents, he served on numerous joint groups and committees, and his numerous writings, series, and daily radio programs have helped to spark discussions on family issues in the United States and lead debates on family values. We are delighted to introduce the new edition of "Love Must Be Respectful" to readers. This is not only a celebration of Dr. Dobson's long-term success but also, we know, the love and blessings of God that flow through his book, along with the wisdom and advice he offers, will save more marriages and lives in the days to come. This book is dedicated to every man and woman who has relied on their husband or wife in every way but has been rejected and hurt. May this book begin the healing journey for the wounded. The methods provided in this book will enable those rejected to live better by tolerating others, for only with tolerance can there be peace.