Cultivating Elites: National Parenting School Model Textbook (Silver Edition)

Author: Du Xiaoyi
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2. Believe that every child is a genius. Encourage children often and never say to them, "You can't do it." Children can only gain happiness from success, which motivates them to keep striving. Once they lose the desire for success, they may become complacent and fall behind. Parents' encouragement can help children experience the joy of success, thus unlocking their potential for active progress.
Dr. Fred, a world-class pediatric neurologist, was considered a poor student in elementary school. He couldn't even understand simple problems like "2 + 2 = 4." However, in fifth grade, he met a teacher who changed his life—Miss Murphy. After class one day, Miss Murphy stopped him and asked him to redo his exam paper. When he finished, Miss Murphy excitedly said, "You got everything right! I knew you could!" From then on, Miss Murphy not only taught him new study methods but also frequently told him, "You're smart, my child. I know you'll have a bright future, and I have full confidence in you."
After that, Fred was determined not to disappoint his teacher. He gradually discovered his strengths and regained his confidence. At the same time, he set his own goal: to become a famous doctor. Miss Murphy's encouragement changed Fred's life, filling him with confidence and hope for the future. If Miss Murphy had treated Fred like other teachers, who thought he was dull, would Fred have realized his incredible talent or achieved such great dreams?
Teachers can change a student's life through encouragement, and parents can do the same for their children. However, some parents are too in praising their children and haven't realized how important proper encouragement is. When a child makes a confident decision, they might hear a skeptical tone: "Can you really do it?" This undoubtedly crushes their self-confidence. Therefore, we should never say to our children, "You can't do it," but instead say, "We believe you can."
When parents scold their children, they often think they are doing it for their own good, forgetting that children need encouragement. Even if the whole world looks down on their child, we should still hug them, praise them, and be proud of having such a child. Only by believing in their genius can they possibly achieve success. P7