The Nine Essential Skills for Speaking Effectively

Author: Sun He
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Publish Date: 2006-11-01
Features: This book discusses the art of conversation in daily life and the speaking skills for dealing with others from nine aspects: mastering language to respond cleverly, using logic to think and debate, being persuasive through gentle guidance, perfecting comprehensive expression, learning to choose words skillfully, asking and answering tactfully, being precise and appropriate in depth and weight, seizing opportunities and adhering to rules, and being polite to build good relationships. It tells you how to speak well and speak effectively. The book incorporates principles into stories, summarizes difficult theories into clear and easy-to-understand key points, and strives to help you improve your oral communication skills. Good eloquence integrates a person's observation skills, cognitive abilities, thinking skills, analytical skills, judgment skills, and reasoning skills, reflecting a person's life experience and social experience. This book summarizes the art of conversation in daily life and the speaking skills for dealing with others, and clearly tells you how to express yourself clearly in simple and popular language. This will enable you to gain the trust of leaders and the recognition of colleagues. Reading this book, you will find that the moment to enhance your charm is right in front of you, and navigating the workplace and life will no longer be daunting.
In social settings, sometimes you may encounter intentional or unintentional ridicule, sarcasm, or mockery. What should you do? You should use language as a "shield" to build a protective dam. Those with the ability to adapt to changing situations can mobilize their wisdom to turn passive into active, making awkward situations disappear like smoke. "The general comes to meet the general, and the soldier comes to meet the soldier." You can choose different responses depending on the person, and with the right choice of words, you will handle the situation with ease and confidence.
In social settings, if you determine that the person you are talking to has ill intentions and is deliberately provoking you, you can respond with "an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth," replying to your opponent with reason and restraint. Former British Prime Minister Wilson was giving a speech during his election campaign when suddenly a troublemaker shouted, "Shit! Garbage!" Clearly, his intention was to tell Wilson to stop talking nonsense. However, Wilson ignored the troublemaker's meaning and simply smiled tolerantly, saying, "Sir, I am about to address the environmental pollution issue you mentioned." The troublemaker was speechless.
When using the technique of direct confrontation in a large group setting, there is also the issue of gaining the understanding and support of the audience. If you respond too harshly, it may lead to a quarrel, which would be meaningless. If someone asks with a half-truth, "You won a big bonus, so you're 'getting rich' now?" you can respond with a straightforward but clever answer: "Do you want to too? Let's do it together." This shows a bit of masculine confidence, and others will find it difficult to ask further questions.
If you have just been promoted to a leadership position and someone teases you, "Now you've really made it, rising to the top!" You don't need to take it seriously and can just smile and say, "Is that so? You're so good at predicting things?" This humble but firm approach immediately silences the other person. On the other hand, if you overreact and give a long explanation, it will seem too serious and backfire.
If someone uses overly abrupt language that offends or embarrasses you, you should respond subtly, pretending to be deaf or mute, being evasive, ambiguous, or evasive, or go with the flow, divert attention, and answer unrelated questions, talking about something completely unrelated to their question. Using this indirect approach to refute your opponent will surely achieve remarkable results.
Sometimes, you may encounter difficult or tricky problems. If you respond with humor and wit, you can often turn danger into safety and change the awkward situation. When everything seems bleak, a sudden turn of events can lead to a new path, making the awkward situation disappear in laughter.
In social interactions, using the technique of "attacking the heart" is to make others believe and accept your point of view. To persuade others and make them accept your perspective, using the reverse persuasion method can often easily convince them.
For example, an engineer from a construction company once used language to subdue a stubborn person. A foreman often opposed all improvement plans. The engineer wanted to install a new type of index table but knew the foreman would object. So, he went to see the foreman with a new index table under his arm and some documents for soliciting opinions. When everyone was discussing these documents,