Carnegie's Complete Works on Human Weaknesses - How to Win Friends and Influence People (Value Pack Edition)

Author: Ke Qiuxian
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Publish Date: 2006-11-01
Features: Dale Carnegie is a renowned psychologist and expert in interpersonal relationships, widely recognized as the "father of interpersonal relations." Throughout his life, Carnegie deeply felt the importance of interpersonal communication. Through countless surveys and case analyses, combined with his own life experiences, he finally identified the "weaknesses of human nature." From ordinary life, Carnegie saw the hope of success and found the techniques to overcome human weaknesses and build efficient interpersonal relationships. This book takes the common weaknesses of human nature as its starting point and is divided into twelve chapters: Techniques for interpersonal relationships, Making Others Like You, Gaining Others' Recognition, Making Others Identify with You, Don't Let Worry Trouble You, Analyzing and Solving Your Worry, Don't Worry About Small Matters, Stay Away from Worry, Cultivate a Positive Mindset, Beware of the Harm of Fatigue, Create a Harmonious Family, and Arrange Work and Money Properly. The content covers various aspects such as interpersonal communication, mindset regulation, maintaining family harmony, organizing work, and managing finances reasonably. In the book, Carnegie provides readers with methods on how to get along with others, gain their recognition, avoid human weaknesses, and overcome them. He also proposes effective strategies to address various weaknesses, guiding readers in creating harmonious and fulfilling interpersonal relationships. The book combines elegant language with vivid and concrete examples to enhance readability and engagement. Through this book, readers can deepen their understanding of Carnegie's interpersonal methods and find their own communication approaches, summarizing their own communication experiences and discovering their path to success.
Step back, and the sky will be even broader. Criticism is like a well-tamed pigeon; they will come back chirping. If you and I want to create an aversion that lasts for decades until death with just a single vicious remark tomorrow, all it takes is a careless, harsh comment. The world-renowned psychologist Skinner demonstrated through his experiments that an animal that receives rewards for good behavior learns much faster and remembers better than one that is punished for bad behavior. Further research shows that humans are similar. Using criticism does not bring about lasting change in others but often provokes resentment. Another great psychologist, Schiele, said, "We desperately desire praise from others, just as we fear their criticism." The criticism that caused resentment from the safety helmets, as described by Johnson, often lowered the morale and emotions of employees, family members, and friends, while the situation of being reprimanded did not improve. Johnson, an engineer safety coordinator in Enid, Oklahoma, was responsible for supervising workers on construction sites to wear safety helmets. He said that whenever he encountered someone not wearing a helmet, he would adopt a bureaucratic tone, telling them they had to follow the company's rules. Although the employees accepted his correction, they were deeply unhappy and often took off their helmets after he left. He decided to take a different approach. Later, when he noticed someone not wearing a helmet, he would ask if it was uncomfortable or if there was anything unsuitable about it. Then, in a pleasant tone, he reminded them that the helmet was meant to protect them from harm and suggested they wear it while working. As a result, more and more people followed the rules and wore helmets without causing resentment or emotional dissatisfaction.
Most people do not blame themselves. On May 7, 1931, the people of New York witnessed a shocking chase they had never seen before. The perpetrator was a teetotaler known as "Double Gun" Claude, a criminal. At the time, he was trapped in his lover's apartment on West 39th Street. One hundred and fifty police officers besieged Claude in a hideout on the top floor of the apartment. They drilled a hole in the roof, attempting to smoke Claude out with tear gas. Police officers set up machine guns around nearby buildings, waiting for the criminal to emerge. After about an hour, the usually quiet neighborhood suddenly erupted into a series of harsh sounds of machine guns and pistols. Claude, hiding behind a chair piled with, fired his short gun at the police repeatedly. Tens of thousands of people watched this thrilling scene of a police versus criminal confrontation with excitement and anticipation. Those who had lived in New York for a long time knew that such a scene was extremely rare. After Claude was arrested, Police Chief Ronan stated, "This brute is one of the most dangerous criminals in New York's history." The police chief added, "Claude killed people like cutting onions."