I want to make you so angry that you die

Author: Roni Cohen-Sandler
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Publish Date: 2003-08-01
Features: The war between mother and daughter is usually a matter of time and tide. Based on my personal experience, mothers' love for their children is natural, but the balance between care and control is not something the average person can grasp. Therefore, conflicts and cold wars, or even intense arguments, are inevitable. The saying goes, "It's hard to understand parents' hardships without being a parent," and the various sorrows hidden behind the word "hardship" are likely difficult to comprehend unless one has been a parent during their child's teenage years. The battleground is usually at the dinner table or while watching TV, as these are occasions when the family gathers. As soon as someone carelessly brings up a sensitive topic, the tense mother-daughter relationship can quickly descend into a war-like atmosphere. The father, caught between the mother and daughter, finds it impossible to maintain a neutral, detached stance in the tense situation. You can only wait and see first, then gradually intervene, trying to say some soothing words to acknowledge that both sides have their points; or poke fun at oneself, saying how one used to be like that too, basically aiming to effectively isolate the conflict between the two sides and ease the tension before addressing the issue.