Patient's question:
During sexual activity, my heart is never serious. Originally very hard penis, in the unconscious, it becomes soft. But the time is very long, can last for over an hour. I think this is not normal?Doctor's answer:
Hello, based on the current description of the situation, it generally does not constitute an abnormal phenomenon. It is recommended to refer to the following relevant materials:Choice of Sexual Lifestyle
I. Choice of Preparation Methods
Ancient people have long pointed out that before sexual intercourse, one should "gradually engage in playful activities, allowing the spirit and mind to harmonize for a long time," and only then begin sexual activity once both parties have reached an excited state. If one party has a request but the other has not yet entered an excited state, then "induction" is necessary. The experimental conclusions of Masters and Johnson in the United States suggest that male sexual desire is easily stimulated and progresses quickly, while female sexual desire is relatively more difficult to stimulate and progresses more slowly. Therefore, the inducer is often the male, and the female is usually the one being induced. In situations requiring induction, one can start with conversation, using affectionate, humorous, emotionally rich, and expressive language as a form of emotional communication to create a harmonious atmosphere. Then, affectionate actions can be employed. If both parties have already experienced sexual arousal at this point, such actions will be natural and effective. Especially when touching various erogenous zones of the body, it generally leads to sexual excitement. Preparation should be carried out based on the actual situation and needs. If both parties have emerged with sexual desires at the same time, some steps may not need to be started from scratch.
II. Choice of Lighting
Lighting can create a special atmosphere suitable for various mindsets. For example, engaging in activity in the dark can evoke a sense of mystery, promoting the generation of sexual fantasies. People with a shy or reserved personality often make this choice. Dim lighting, such as red, yellow, or green,