Patient's question:
Detailed medical condition and consultation purpose: I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and everything between us is normal. However, during sexual activity, I have no sensation at all. The foreplay is long enough, and I can feel something, but it disappears as soon as it starts. At the same time, I experience a feeling of needing to urinate, and sometimes my labia minora hurt. I don’t know what the reason is. Now, my interest is decreasing, and even the best relationship cannot sustain this for a long time.History of previous diagnoses and treatments, as well as effectiveness: I have consulted a doctor, but they haven’t given a definitive diagnosis.
Doctor's answer:
Women have sex because of love, so if you say you haven't fallen in love with him yet, that is the fundamental reason for the lack of sexual harmony. Since you have been married for several years and don't want to divorce, you should reflect on yourself, communicate more with him, and realize that the main problem lies within you.Advice: The main issue is likely that your expectations for sexual love are too high. Try shifting your focus, engage in more foreplay before intimacy, and increase emotional communication. This should resolve the problem.
Lifestyle Care: If your husband has issues with endurance, consider adding more foreplay during intimacy. You can also try making changes yourself, using to enhance your husband's desire.