Patient's question:
I've had sex with my boyfriend about six or seven times. The first two times, he couldn't insert, so he wore a condom and finished himself off. Later, I asked him to see a doctor, and he took some traditional Chinese medicine, which helped a bit. The intercourse lasted a bit longer after that. But we thought it was better and stopped taking the medicine. However, when we tried again after some time, it didn't work. He couldn't insert several times, and he'd get hard but quickly lose his erection without ejaculation. Later, I helped him get hard again, but he'd finish within less than three minutes after insertion. After that, he went back to the doctor and took medicine for two days. Then we tried again, and he got hard at first, but it didn't last long—his erection softened before insertion, and he still didn't ejaculate. Later, I helped him again, and it improved a bit. He could insert for about ten minutes, but he got sweaty quickly and had to stop after moving for more than ten minutes. Even after resting for a short while, he couldn't insert again and soon softened outside. Whether he finished or not, he himselfDoctor's answer:
Second, don't always mention this in front of him. Third, try to avoid doing it frequently. This is a problem of kidney deficiency and psychological barriers. Before, he had some kidney deficiency, then he saw a doctor, but the results were always not very significant. Now, he has left a psychological shadow. You need to encourage him. When he's doing it, you can give him some hints that he can succeed. If he sees little reaction from you while he's doing it, he'll lose motivation. If he doesn't come out, he'll finish early, and then you'll blame him, making him afraid to do it anymore. So, you need to mentally encourage him. Just taking medicine isn't enough. At his age, there's no need to take medicine if there's nothing wrong. You need to build his confidence and try to make his life more pleasant.