Patient's question:
I have always been troubled by sexual function. Sometimes, after getting an erection, I experience premature ejaculation, and at other times, my erection is weak. The books say that it requires both partners to face and treat the issue together, and it also requires the help of my wife. However, my wife is quite conservative and thinks that if she doesn't mention it, it's already good enough. She doesn't want to help me at all. Sometimes I feel that if my wife could just stimulate me a little, I would be able to stabilize well. But my wife doesn't allow it, saying that every time she gets turned on, I can't perform, so she just avoids touching me altogether. What should I do? Actually, I feel that the problem is mostly psychological—there's too much pressure. Although my wife doesn't say anything, it's clear that she is very angry. But she doesn't want to cooperate with me either. What should I do?Doctor's answer:
Sex life is originally a matter between two people. If the two of you don't coordinate well with each other, your mood can be easily affected, and the quality of your sex life will not be high. I suggest you find a suitable time to have a good talk with your partner and believe that you will coordinate well with each other. As a man, you must be more proactive and take good care of her. When she feels your warmth, she will think that she will coordinate well with you. You must show concern and let her know that you love her. Wish you happiness!