The Way of Famous People Throughout History in Dealing with Others – Nine Methods to Guard Against People

Author: Dongli Zi (Translation)
Publisher:
Publish Date: 2005-05-01
Features:
People with a narrow mind and a tendency to hold grudges: Petty, jealous, and hold onto minor grievances, they will seek revenge for even the slightest offense.
Those who play both sides and scheme behind your back: They make promises easily but break them just as casually, making it impossible to know which of their words are true.
People who lack credibility and don’t keep their word: They make promises and break them at will, leaving you unsure of what they are actually saying.
Those who are gossipy and spread rumors: They take things out of context or even fabricate stories, always speaking behind people’s backs, eager to stir up trouble.
Those who nitpick and are overly critical: They create problems out of nothing, picking flaws like a hair in an egg, and take pride in it.
Those who boast and deceive: Such people are rare in having real skills, but their fake or twisted abilities can be quite powerful. You can despise them but cannot ignore them.
Those who only know how to take without giving thanks: Even if you open your heart to them, they won’t say a single good word. The slightest success, and they will leave you in the dust.
Those who are cunning and always calculating: They weigh every situation, calculating benefits and losses repeatedly, skillfully using tricks without revealing them.
Those who only think of themselves and will stop at nothing to achieve their goals: Their common trait is being ruthless, unprincipled, and indifferent to family ties. They will do anything as long as they achieve their objectives.
While bad people are not the mainstream of society, they are everywhere, making it impossible to guard against them at all times. A person’s standing in society may be weakened if they are too aggressive, but excessive caution can also isolate them from the world. The key is to develop "invulnerable" self-defense skills based on the distinct characteristics of these nine types of people. This self-defense skill, in the complex social life, is not for harming others but for self-protection.
In fact, if you treat others with sincerity, build relationships based on trust, and help others with kindness, you can live a dignified life. We must not only seek safety but also pursue a life of freedom and happiness. As long as you stay true to yourself, resist temptation, and are not swayed by power, keep a bright lantern of virtue and justice burning in your heart. I do not need to set defenses, for they will naturally exist.