Good children are praised into being - (Classic Education Collection Edition)

Author: Zhang Zixue
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Publish Date: 2006-10-01
Features: Respect is the bridge of communication. Respect and trust are the bridges of emotional communication. Whoever respects the child, the child will respect them. Only those who respect the child have the qualification to educate the child. No matter what kind of child, as long as you respect them, you can communicate and interact with them smoothly. There is a parent who is often confused by the conflicts with her son. Once, when she was scolding her son, he retorted, making her tear up in anger. Seeing her sad and disappointed expression, not only did he not give in, but he also mocked her, saying, "What's with the act of being pitiful?" Upon hearing this, the parent immediately wiped away her tears and stormed out of the room. This is no longer just a matter of sadness, but rather the dignity that a senior should have being trampled so "cheaply"? The generation gap has always been a problem that deeply troubles both parents and children in reality. "I almost have nothing to talk about with my parents. The only thing they ask me about is my studies, and I'm so fed up with it." Zhao Liang, who is in eighth grade, says, "I like to chat with my classmates about football, but my mom doesn't understand it, nor is she interested. So she says I only play all day and never talk about studying." Now Zhao Liang says he also has no interest in talking with his parents, feeling like there's nothing to talk about. Zhou Lan's son is in high school now. "I usually enjoy chatting with my son, and of course, the most we talk about is his studies. But now I feel he's becoming less willing to listen, often just going through the motions, and sometimes he doesn't even say anything." Zhou Lan's son really likes basketball and becomes animated when talking about it. However, whenever this happens, Zhou Lan gets very angry and says, "The moment you mention studying, you get annoyed, but when it comes to basketball, you get excited." Why does an unbridgeable gap appear between two generations? It is certainly influenced by the differences in values across generations, but it is often also caused by the lack of communication and interaction between parents and children. Parents have their own set of values, and children have their own set of values, and they often don't understand each other. In such a situation, how can there not be conflicts and clashes? Therefore, to avoid the generation gap between two generations, the most effective method is to use respect for the child to build a bridge of communication and understanding. Let me tell you a story that may inspire you: In the grasslands, there was a herdsman who raised many cattle. One of the calves was very stubborn. He often didn't listen to the herdsman's commands, leaving the herd whenever he wanted, and entering the grassland with the herd whenever he wanted. Sometimes the herdsman found him adorable, but other times he found him very annoying, thinking he was indeed a stubborn calf, and planned to sell him once he grew a bit older. One night, the herdsman returned from grazing, and the calf was again stubborn outside the cowshed. No matter how the herdsman whipped him, he remained motionless, refusing to enter the cowshed. The herdsman was already tired after a long day and became frustrated when he encountered this situation. He whipped the calf while silently resolving in his heart: if it's still this stubborn, he'll have to kill it. The herdsman had lost confidence in managing and herding the calf. At this moment, the herdsman's mother came out of the tent, looked at the stubborn calf, and stopped the herdsman's whip. The herdsman's mother walked up to the calf, gently stroked it, and took