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Author: Wang Yi
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Publish Date: 2006-09-01
Features: Tolerance and magnanimity mean being forgiving and considerate towards others. Specifically, it requires having a broad-minded attitude, being able to overlook past grievances, and being mindful of others' feelings while interacting with them, rather than overly focusing on personal gain or loss. Su Dongpo had a friend named Zhang Bo, who later became the Vice Premier and held significant power. During his tenure, Su Dongpo was exiled to Lingnan. Later, when Su Dongpo was pardoned and returned north, Zhang Bo was instead exiled to Leizhou Peninsula in Lingnan. Upon hearing this news, Su Dongpo wrote a letter to Zhang Bo, saying: "I am deeply troubled to hear this news. At your age, to be exiled to such a distant place, the emotional toll must be immense. Fortunately, the area around Leizhou is remote but free of miasma. You should comfort your elderly mother as much as possible." It is easy to imagine Zhang Bo's profound shame. Su Dongpo, a man who had been nearly put to death by his friend, still fulfilled his duty as a friend during his friend's time of hardship. Such magnanimity is something everyone should learn from. As the saying goes, "A small-minded person is no true gentleman." Tolerance towards others not only means being forgiving but also means not being overly concerned with trivial matters. In life, it is common to see two close friends engaging in a conversation, only to hold differing opinions on a particular topic and refuse to yield, eventually escalating into an argument that ends unhappily. In reality, they were once very good friends, yet a single disagreement caused them to severely damage their relationship and lose their friendship, which is truly regrettable.
Additionally, it is not uncommon to see some people cut off ties with friends over minor mishaps, such as a poor host or a single instance of being taken advantage of. In reality, if one takes a moment to consider their friend's situation or simply let such matters go with a smile, they will not only gain a friend but also a better mood to face life.
Tolerance also requires paying close attention to a friend's self-esteem in daily life. While money lost can often be earned back, once a person's self-esteem is hurt, it is much harder to repair. During the Warring States period, Zhongshan was a small state. Once, the ruler hosted a banquet for the state's renowned scholars, but there was not enough mutton soup to serve everyone. Sima Ziqi, who did not get to drink the soup, harbored resentment. He went to the state of Chu and persuaded the king to attack Zhongshan. Chu was a powerful state, and Zhongshan was defeated. As the ruler fled, he noticed two men armed with weapons protecting him. He asked them what they were doing, and they replied, "Our father was saved from starvation by a single dish of food you provided. Before he died, he instructed us to do our utmost to repay you." Upon hearing this, the ruler of Zhongshan sighed and said, "The value of a gift lies not in its quantity but in whether it meets the recipient's need. The depth of a grudge does not lie in its severity but in whether it wounds the other person's heart. I lost my kingdom over a cup of mutton soup, yet gained two brave men over a single dish of food."
In modern society, which is a society of interaction, individual personalities are becoming increasingly prominent. Therefore, a friend's self-esteem is even more precious and should not be harmed. A strong desire to win often leads people to push things to an extreme, insisting on proving their correctness or victory, which can damage their friendship. In small matters, you could allow your friend to "win" occasionally and enjoy the moment, showing consideration for their self-esteem. This is also an opportunity to gain favor from multiple sides.
Respecting a friend's self-esteem sometimes requires suppressing one's own desire to win. A gentleman once sought a game of chess with a friend during his leisure time. From the outset, he was overly aggressive, making his friend extremely nervous. Moreover, he deliberately made a mistake, not realizing it was a trap. The friend, unaware, immediately launched an attack. Unintentionally, the gentleman used a killing move and triumphantly said, "You're dead." The friend's expression turned blank. After that, the gentleman could no longer persuade his friend to play chess again. What started as a game of entertainment turned into such tension that even after winning, he lost his friend. This shows that to make friends, one must be tolerant and treat others with a calm and even-minded attitude. P3-5