"Kick the world off its feet in the first three steps"

Author: Wan Quanhe
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Publish Date: 2006-09-01
Features: This book is primarily aimed at addressing the challenges and daily interactions that newcomers to the workplace may face, with the goal of enhancing personal skills and charm. It delves into behavioral and mindset details, presenting workplace wisdom in a relaxed text accompanied by exquisite images, thereby helping readers navigate the path to workplace happiness.
Winning People Over with Virtue
Most people who graduate from school carry an unconscious habit. It is a tendency—or rather, an ingrained habit—to boast about their knowledge. This is a result of campus culture. In school, everyone studies this kind of knowledge, and teachers use it to question students, judging their based on their answers. Students rely on their studies to gain teachers' evaluations, finding pleasure and satisfaction in gaining insights into the world.
Driven by this habit and atmosphere, university students subconsciously hope for others to recognize their ideas. However, once in society, this mindset becomes unrealistic and unsuitable for the environment.
First, when it comes to expertise, everyone specializes in different areas, each with their own strengths. If you claim to be an expert in physics, I might say I've seen through the world's illusions—it's hard to determine who is superior in the same field. Since there's no basis for comparison, there's no need to boast. This is very different from the situation in school, where everyone studies the same major and faces the same issues.
Second, even if you and others share the same major or work in the same role, you shouldn't emphasize that you're better than them. In a team, if a newcomer outshines the seniors, it can be seen as a to the team. If you do this, or if you have done this, or if you plan to do this, you are essentially opposing the team. As a result, you place yourself in an extreme position: you cannot make mistakes, and once you do, all your advantages vanish.
Finally, the world itself is diverse, and perspectives on things vary. Many opinions have no inherent superiority or inferiority; they are simply different results seen from different angles. This is the natural law of the world, and there is no reason for you to force others to adopt your way of thinking. Therefore, it is neither a cause for joy if you see things profoundly and far-sightedly, nor a cause for sorrow if others see them superficially and narrowly. If the world only had millions of people like you and no one else, what kind of world would it be?
Thus, as long as it's not in a school setting dedicated to academic discussions—even in school, as long as it's not a purely academic discussion—we should return to life itself. By demonstrating our attitudes and methods in the small, everyday matters of our lives, we can showcase ourselves and integrate into society. This is the practice of winning people over with virtue.
Because, if you rely on techniques to dominate others, the techniques will eventually exhaust, and people will scatter; if you win people over with virtue, virtue will endure, and harmony will prevail.
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