Sexual health maintenance

Author: Shen Yuwen, Qian Xiaoming, Gu Gen Gang / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2002-01-01
Features: Passionate Love, Intense and Impulsive
As the mutual understanding between lovers deepens and their psychological compatibility improves, their feelings grow increasingly intense. Affectionate behaviors characteristic of lovers make their interactions warmer and sweeter, thereby enhancing the joy and happiness of love. However, excessive intimacy, combined with weak self-control, can lead to early sexual activity, causing one to prematurely taste the bitterness of love.
Mature Love, Deep and Devoted
Generally, after the stages of first love and passionate love, love matures. Mature love is subtle, internal, realistic, and objective, as if the lava of emotions has ceased to erupt, accumulating and flowing gently within, occasionally warming the other's heart. Individuals in the stage of mature love have a clearer understanding of each other's personalities, interests, and hobbies. This allows them to maintain both intimacy and appropriate distance; to help and be inseparable, yet respect and tolerate each other's shortcomings, able to face challenges together and share joys and sorrows. In summary, mature love typically has two key characteristics:
1. Subtle and Profound Emotions
After the admiration of first love and the passion of passionate love, emotions tend to stabilize and become calmer. Partners often share unspoken understanding, mutual care, and support, with their feelings more evident in how they handle both big and small matters.
2. Interpenetration and Attachment
Mature love allows the emotions and interests of both partners to permeate each other, creating a state where "you are in me, and I am in you." On the surface, they appear independent, but spiritually, they are "two as one," an inseparable whole.
Sexual Impulses in Passionate Love
Sexual desire during passionate love is a normal psychological phenomenon. Love and sex are inseparable, with sex being a higher stage of love's development. During passionate love, due to harmonious communication, shared psychology, situational influences, and even physical contact like hugging, kissing, or caressing, individuals may experience strong sexual urges. This is a normal physiological response and the result of healthy puberty development. Affectionate behaviors between lovers enhance intimacy and sweetness, increasing the joy and happiness of love and contributing to the strengthening and development of the relationship.
How to Prevent Premature Sexual Dysfunction?
Some middle-aged couples feel their sexual function is declining prematurely, feeling "there's strength but not enough energy." In such cases, the first step is to consult a specialist doctor to check for any physical conditions. Next, analyze whether sexual activity is too direct or monotonous, lacking "art of harmony," and whether there is poor mutual coordination, leading to a loss of sexual attraction. Additionally, consider whether unexpected events or long-term psychological trauma and stress are factors.
In real life, due to various internal and external factors—such as physical differences between men and women, psychological environments, and fluctuations in physiological functions—one partner may experience sexual dysfunction while the other remains normal. This can affect sexual activity, impact emotional communication, lead to conflicts, and even result in the breakdown of the marital relationship. Since female sexual dysfunction may not always affect sexual activity, conflicts often arise more frequently in men. As a husband, it is important to undergo medical examinations for any organic changes and seek his wife's cooperation.
Experience shows that some middle-aged couples, due to work pressures and busy household chores, engage in sexual activity rarely or even live separately. Over time, their emotional connection weakens, and they may become like strangers. Sometimes, a husband's temporary sexual dysfunction can cause his wife's frustration and anger, adding mental pressure to the man. Combined with excessive fatigue from work, this can lead to excessive melancholy and sadness, forming negative conditioned reflexes that overly suppress the brain's erection center, worsening sexual function and creating a vicious cycle.
Sexual Health for Middle-Aged Couples
Middle-aged couples should pay attention to the following three points regarding sexual activity:
1. Moderate Sexual Activity
Sex is a part of marital life, and a satisfying and harmonious sexual life benefits both emotional connection and the coordination of internal tensions. Although "everything becomes complicated in middle age," even with busy work and household responsibilities, some time should be allocated for sexual activity. However, middle-aged individuals should adjust the frequency of sexual activity according to their physical condition to maintain yin-yang balance. Most middle-aged couples find that:
- Ages 35–45: 1–2 times per week
- Ages 46–55: 1 time per week
These experiences generally align with the principles of health preservation and longevity.
2. Prioritize Emotional Connection
After transitioning to middle age, young couples often see the husband busy with career and life, while the wife focuses most of her energy on raising children and household chores. Their personalities and emotions become more stable and internalized, their social circles shrink, and their dependence on their husband increases, making sexual activity more significant. However, due to the husband's busyness and declining energy, his sexual desire may not be as intense as before. On one hand, he may not fully meet his wife's sexual needs, and on the other hand, he may resort to direct sexual activity to replace all forms of marital life, which clearly has more disadvantages than benefits. Therefore, middle-aged couples should engage more in emotional communication and psychological caresses. The husband should spend more time accompanying his wife, and the wife should understand, support, and be considerate of her husband.
3. Nourish the Kidneys and Strengthen Essence
As people age, their physical functions decline, and the essence of the five internal organs, especially the kidneys, gradually depletes. While normal sexual activity benefits physical and mental health, the body still shows signs of aging. Therefore, middle-aged individuals must focus on nourishing the kidneys and preserving essence. Even if early signs of kidney deficiency are present, the kidney's qi and essence can be replenished to delay the aging process.
To prevent kidney deficiency, in addition to maintaining a regular lifestyle, balancing work and rest, actively treating existing chronic diseases, and controlling the frequency of sexual activity, some methods to nourish the kidneys and strengthen the body can be adopted, such as herbal and dietary supplements, as well as ancient health preservation techniques like "ringing the heavens' drums," "wrapping the kidney," and "contracting the anal muscles." These practices help preserve kidney qi, delay aging, and promote health.
Excessive Masturbation Exacerbates Sexual Nerve Weakness
Frequent masturbation can lead individuals to become excessively immersed in sexual excitement. If sexual excitement occurs repeatedly over a long period, the sexual center will remain in an excited state. Once the sexual nerves become overly excited, exhaustion will follow, leading to sexual nerve weakness. This can cause symptoms such as dizziness, tinnitus, slow thinking, scattered attention, and memory loss, as well as sexual dysfunction, endangering sexual activity. In men, this may manifest as impotence, premature ejaculation, or excessive erections. In women, it may lead to irregular menstruation, dysmenorrhea, decreased sexual desire, or even infertility. Particularly for women, since the pleasure from masturbation is stronger than that from normal sexual activity, the sensitivity of the genital area may become dulled, resulting in a lack of sexual climax during intercourse and aversion to sex, leading to emotional apathy and sexual indifference.
Excessive Masturbation Increases Urinary and Reproductive System Diseases
Excessive masturbation excessively depletes the body's energy, disrupts the sexual control system, and easily triggers reproductive system diseases such as prostatitis. For women with short vaginas, if hands become contaminated with bacteria during masturbation, retrograde infection can lead to external genital inflammation, vaginitis, urinary tract infections, and menstrual cramps.
Controlling Masturbation and Strengthening Self-Control
In summary, occasional spontaneous masturbation is harmless to health. However, if it becomes hard to control and occurs frequently, it can affect work and studies. For those who have formed a habit of masturbation, proper guidance can help them gradually quit. The following suggestions are proposed:
1. Develop Good Habits
Maintain a regular sleep schedule, avoid spicy, smelly, and unnecessary tonics. At the same time, pay attention to hygiene, frequently wash the external genitalia, especially those with prolonged foreskin or phimosis, as the coronal sulcus of the glans penis is prone to inflammation and can be an external trigger for sexual urges. Therefore, frequent washing is necessary to avoid unnecessary stimulation. Additionally, avoid tight underwear and pants.
2. Engage in Beneficial Activities
Youthful energy and a strong desire for sexual knowledge make it easy for teenagers to develop a habit of masturbation. Teenagers can participate in various beneficial physical and sports activities, such as playing ball, running, hiking, swimming, or practicing Tai Chi. This not only shifts focus away from sexual issues but also helps achieve a certain level of fatigue, making it easier to fall asleep.
3. Reduce Negative Stimuli
Due to social and family influences, coupled with weak willpower and fragile psychological resilience, teenagers are easily affected by various negative stimuli and factors. Therefore, to quit masturbation, it is essential to avoid sexual stimuli and teasing, such as pornographic books, movies, and video tapes.
4. Tonify the Spleen and Nourish the Kidneys
Overthinking and melancholy damage the heart and spleen, leading to depleted qi and blood. Since kidney essence relies on spleen nourishment to strengthen, if the spleen is weak, the kidneys are also affected. This method is suitable for impotence caused by spleen deficiency leading to kidney deficiency. Medicines like "Dual-Spleen and Kidney Tonifying Pills" can be used.
Prescription:
- Ginseng: 10g
- Lotus Seeds: 15g
- Chinese Yam: 10g
- Cardamom: 0.5g
- Nutmeg: 10g
- Tangerine Peel: 0.5g
- Cornus: 20g
- Schisandra: 15g
- Tribulus Terrestris: 15g
- Psoralea Corylifolia: 20g
- Euonymus Alatus: 15g
- Plantain: 5g
For impotence, while emphasizing syndrome differentiation, the prescription should also note:
1. Choose Soft and Nourishing Medicines
Prescriptions like "Five Seeds Originating from the Origin Pill" and "Three Seeds Pill" are soft and nourishing. If cinnamon and aconite must be used, they should be combined with prepared rhubarb and wolfberry. Overly warm, dry, greasy, or rich prescriptions all have their drawbacks.
2. Add Blood and Flesh to Preserve Emotion
Impotence is primarily treated by nourishing the kidneys and filling essence. Medicines like human placenta, fish bladder, deer antler, tortoise shell, sea dog kidney, and sheep testicles can connect the Ren and Du meridians, nourish essence, and fill marrow.
3. Add Astringent and Sealing Medicines
Kidney deficiency leads to impaired sealing function, where qi fails to hold essence, causing leakage. Essence leakage also leads to the downward drain of yang qi. Therefore, astringent and sealing methods are auxiliary treatments. Medicines like oyster shell, pearl shell, hawthorn, psoralea corylifolia, and lotus seeds can be used for both nourishing and astringent purposes.
4. Add Blood-Activating and Removing Stasis Medicines
In traditional Chinese medicine, "long-term illness affects the collaterals." If impotence is not cured after prolonged treatment, it must involve the blood. Add blood-activating herbs like angelica, prepared rhubarb, and safflower to the prescription. Even earthworms and water snakes can be used to open blocked collaterals, combining replenishment and removal.
Self-Massage as a Health Preservation Method for Impotence
Use the palm to quickly rub and knead the Qihai point (1.5 inches below the navel), Guanyuan point (3 inches below the navel), Mingmen point (below the spinous process of the second lumbar vertebra), and Shenque point (2–3 inches lateral to the space between the second and third lumbar vertebrae). Rub until a warm sensation is felt locally. Do this once in the morning and once in the evening, 100 times each time.
Alternatively, use the thumb or middle finger to massage Guanyuan and Zhongji (4 inches below the navel) and Sanyinjiao (directly above the medial malleolus, 4 finger-widths above the tibia) for one minute each time, once in the morning and once in the evening.
Or, use both palms to gently rub and twist the penis 100 times, like rubbing a. Also, rub and twist the testicles 100 times, without causing pain, once in the morning and once in the evening.