Treat the heart with kindness - Use the power of the heart to achieve success - Bedside book of heart insights

Author: Jia Wei
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Publish Date: 2006-09-01
Features: Living joyfully, your hobby is your direction, your interest is your capital, and your temperament is your fate. Carnegie said, "The difference between what makes you happy and unhappy is not what you have, but what you do. Two people in the same situation, with roughly equal conditions, doing the same things. One is gloomy, while the other is joyful." Generally speaking, happiness and sorrow depend entirely on one's own judgment. Just as a woman who does not love jewelry, even if she is surrounded by an environment that highly values vanity, it will not change her in any way; a scholar with thousands of books does not envy the rich man with expensive diamonds; a person content with a pastoral life does not long for high-ranking positions. Similarly, you may think that others are living a miserable life, but they feel their lives are full of flavor. Can you say they are not happy?
Another situation is that some people never feel satisfied with what they do. Their happiness is built on the continuous pursuit and struggle. As a result, their goals keep moving further away. The happiness of such people may be rare, but their achievements may be great. To have a joyful heart, one must possess a calm and balanced mindset. A person with a calm temperament is kind-hearted, good at being considerate and understanding others, and possesses strong self-control and patience. People with a calm temperament are always happy, not only making themselves happy but also making others happy. A calm personality makes it easy to get along with others and always brings joy to those around them, never attracting envy. The eyes of a person with a calm temperament always shine with a joyful light, appearing cheerful and vibrant.
A joyful and calm personality, though primarily innate, can also be cultivated or strengthened through postnatal training, just like habits. Among us, some fully enjoy life, while others do not fully experience its pleasures, mainly depending on our attitude toward life and our mindset. Every person's life has two aspects, and what we choose to show is the sunny side. We can fully rely on our willpower to make positive choices and cultivate an optimistic personality. People who are full of hope in life will always face reality with optimism. For such people, there is no such thing as heart-wrenching sorrow. Even in disaster and pain, they can find solace in their hearts and believe that darkness will eventually fade and light will soon arrive. Although sometimes clouds may obscure the sun, its rays will ultimately illuminate the earth.
People who live with sunshine in their hearts always have a joyful light in their eyes, always appearing cheerful, optimistic, and full of vitality, always brimming with sunshine in their hearts. Of course, they too may experience mental suffering and moments of frustration. What sets them apart from others is their ability to accept pain with joy, without complaints or sorrow, and never wasting their precious energy on it. Selfish and self-centered people live in a mysterious tension all day, rarely having time to enjoy the happiness and joy of life.
If you are kind-hearted and dedicate yourself to sowing the seeds of friendship and civilization, these seeds will always find fertile ground and take root, grow, and bear fruit in the hearts of others. There was once a story: A little girl was loved by everyone she met. Everyone who saw her liked her, and someone asked her, "Why do people like you so much?" The girl blinked her eyes and smiled, answering, "I think it's because I love everyone." The answer was simple yet profound. Therefore, the amount of happiness and joy we human beings possess depends on how much love we give. Happiness and joy are directly proportional to love. P4-5