Can we not leave?

Author: Fan Fei
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: Mr. Qian once said, "Marriage is a fortress, those outside want to get in, and those inside want to get out. Why do they want to get out? It must be because things aren’t going well inside. Some people want to get in are often because of illusions. Once those illusions are shattered, marriage becomes a graveyard for love. Divorce then becomes a consideration. Divorce always has unavoidable reasons. Applying economic principles to this, it’s like the use value is fully amortized, the value depreciates to zero. When the cost of cooperation exceeds the loss after separation, then, to maintain stable growth in life’s GDP, divorce is the economic choice. Every day, many people get divorced, but at the same time, many people get married. There’s as much divorce as there is marriage, just like in this world, there’s as much birth as there’s death—it’s natural. Marriage itself is neither right nor wrong, it’s just a contract that formalizes the collaboration of two architects. Since each architect has a different style, in the end, some build heaven, while others build graves. So, whether you go to heaven or to a grave, whether you get married or divorce—it all depends on you. There’s a saying among the people that harmonious couples tend to look alike. Many couples in life indeed do so. In a crowd of strangers, you naturally pair them up, even though their heights and builds vary greatly, but their gestures and ways of speaking often share common traits. Perhaps it’s these shared habits and personalities that give their appearances a sense of resemblance. No matter how different two people’s personalities are, living together day in and day out inevitably leads to mutual influence and gradual convergence. Once this shared world takes shape, it becomes very strong. Although many people have the instinct to grow tired of the old and seek the new, few truly manage to break the old and create the new at the level of marriage. Because marriage isn’t just an emotional issue—it’s a way of life that also transforms those who create it. No one can escape marriage, and every marriage faces problems—whether it’s this problem or that. Every marriage rolls out of a minefield. Can we avoid divorce? Of course, we can. When you ask yourself this question, it means there are already positive factors in your marriage, and there’s potential for improvement. It’s better not to divorce.