New Relationshipology

Author: Wang Fuzhen / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2006-07-01
Features: Sociologists believe that a couple is a union of two genders, a soulmate with hearts intertwined in love. Whether a marital relationship is good or not is rooted in deep understanding and profound affection, which in turn fosters respect and admiration for each other from the heart. Whether a couple can respect and understand each other, and whether their feelings are deep, is the true foundation of a harmonious marital relationship and sweet love. Couples should treat each other as equals and discuss family matters together, avoiding autocratic decision-making or the "my way or the highway" attitude. Even in daily household expenses, entertaining relatives and friends, caring for the elderly, or raising children, there should be mutual consultation, not a "dictatorship of one voice." This is a virtue and a form of self-cultivation. Couples sharing household responsibilities and dividing tasks reasonably both feel a sense of responsibility and have daily tasks to fulfill, which brings more vitality to their love. Couples should also care for each other in daily life, support each other in careers, and understand each other emotionally.
There was a middle-aged couple. One day, the husband noticed that his wife's crow's feet had become more pronounced. Lying beside her, he tenderly stroked her face and said with deep remorse, "I haven't cared enough about you. You've been overworking for the family and the children, and I've failed you. From now on, I will take on three things: doing the laundry, handling the grocery shopping, and taking care of the children. I want to make your life more comfortable." The wife was moved to tears by her "affectionate" husband. For a long time, the husband had devoted himself entirely to his career, leaving no room for household chores, while the wife quietly bore the heavy burden of housework and raising children. On weekends, the husband enjoyed dancing, sometimes with his wife, sometimes returning home alone, and never minded if she went dancing with other women. Her trust in him only deepened his love for her. Through decades of married life, their genuine affection made them realize the preciousness of marital love. Whenever the husband recalled all that his wife had done for him, an indescribable tenderness filled his heart. From then on, the wife also grew to love her husband even more, and they loved each other as if they were dating all over again.
Comforting one's partner with warm and tender words is also a form of respect and love. Once, a husband returned home from work with a face full of anger, silent and sullen. His wife comforted him, "What happened at the office? Just let it go. Nothing in life is perfect." After hearing this, the husband's anger subsided significantly. He thought, "You're right." If the wife burned the rice, the husband would eat it with gusto and say, "This rice is full of flavor—color, aroma, and taste. I haven't had rice with crispy bits in decades!" A simple word like this eased his wife's anxiety, and she secretly cherished his respect and love. At the same time, this humorous language also added much joy and conversation to their ordinary life, keeping their marital bond fresh and vibrant.
A happy and fulfilling marital relationship should be built on a foundation of love, mutual reliance, respect, and shared values, creating a particularly close bond. In such a relationship, family life becomes even more joyful and harmonious, filled with deep affection and a never-ending story every day.
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