Change in mindset changes behavior: Grow with your child

Author: (USA) Gerald Patterson
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Publish Date: 2006-05-01
Features: The child itself is a great educational force for adults. Education begins with life, and after we realize that personality has already been established, it is difficult to change. (English) William Shakespeare (1564-1616) Gently train children to develop the habit of enduring pain without shrinking, which is a fundamental method that can make them mentally calm and brave and decisive in their later lives. (English) John Locke (1632-1704) Children tend to stray toward evil largely because their kind nature is led astray. (French) Jacques Rousseau (1712-1778) Calm, serious, and pragmatic guidance is the external manifestation that education should have, and it should not be tyrannical, angry, shouting, pleading, or begging. (Soviet) A.C. Makarenko (1888-1939) What is truly needed for education is not a national schedule, but a personal schedule for every child. (English) Charles Handy (1932-) The ideas expressed in this book are based on the social learning theory (social learning theory) proposed by Skinner (B.F. Skinner) and Bandura (A. Bandura). This theory has two clear claims: one is that teaching a person is more important than teaching an accomplished person; the other is that cognitive processes are more important than results. Social learning theory emphasizes the fact that people teach each other. It believes that imitation is one of the key ways children learn. The significance of imitation lies in reminding parents that they should be role models for their children, rather than machines busy making money all day, completely neglecting their children, letting TV and online games become their main source of knowledge, and letting them learn violence and indifference from there. How do family members change each other? This book will tell parents the mysteries of this process. Once you understand this, you will realize that you should question everything just like your children, find and understand answers yourself instead of relying on others. In this way, you can understand your emotions, fears, and anxieties, your hopes and joys, and everything within you. Only in this way can you become a qualified parent while also becoming an excellent person. All the main ideas in this book have been broken down into small units or items. You must actively answer these items, not just read them. You must write down your answers one by one and then check the answers provided at the end of each chapter. This book provides guidance on how to effectively handle some problems that arise in the process of educating children. It includes: how parents and children learn, changing inappropriate behavior, normal problems, normal children, and problem children.