Wisdom while walking in the jungle of human nature

Author: Hu Weihong
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Publish Date: 2004-10-21
Features: The folk saying "A kind man is bullied, a horse is ridden" has been passed down through the ages, serving as the "bloody experience" of how to act and behave. Don't be too honest in dealing with people, and don't be too sincere in doing things. Having a full belly of knowledge but lacking flexibility is not as good as mastering human relationships. Having a thousand skills is not as good as having a way in dealing with people and a belief in doing things. Choosing the right path is always more important than running fast. Once you miss the blooming season, you also miss the harvest season! Often, our pursuit stops at just forming an idea, and before taking a step forward, we've already completed the last step. Wang Yongqing believed in the saying: "Buy to eat, sell to eat." Li Ka-shing believed in the saying: "A stingy family cannot last long." Zheng Yutong believed in the saying: "Keep promises, be diligent, think of your roots, and don't forget your gains when you profit." Henry Ford believed in the saying: "You must do the unpleasant things life gives you." Jack Welch believed in the saying: "If you don't know how to fail, you don't know how to succeed." Bill Gates believed in the saying: "I should be king."
Table of Contents:
The First Chapter: "Change" – Repetition is a dead end.
Admonition: Change leads to life, stagnation leads to death. The word "change" is the key to everything. If you cling to one idea stubbornly, you will only gain a bit more resilience.
1. The Way of Dealing with People, the Path of Doing Things
01. Having knowledge but lacking flexibility is not as good as mastering human relationships.
02. Having a thousand skills is not as good as having a way in dealing with people.
03. Catch the Bodhisattva, fear not the Diamond.
04. Hit the wild chicken when it flies, hit the rabbit when it runs.
05. A bushel of rice raises a benefactor, a stone of rice raises an enemy.
06. If it's fair, reverse it.
07. The King of Hell doesn't mind a thin ghost.
08. Don't kick a skinny dog, don't bully a sick horse.
09. Greatness and smallness make a dragon, greatness without smallness makes an insect.
10. A day without shame, three days without hunger.
11. A day of selling fake goods earns three loads, three days of selling real goods earns one load.
12. Who becomes the emperor, who pays the taxes.
2. Better to be a fool in front of others than to know everything in front of others.
13. Eating Zhou's salary, not speaking of Zhou's tyranny.
14. Without the east, no matter how hard you work, you will be exhausted.
15. Disobeying the teacher gets you a punch.
16. Don't hide your illness from the doctor.
17. No grows on a dung heap.
18. Besides Ling Mountain, there are other Buddhas.
19. More incense burners, more ghosts.
20. Without dog dung, one move is good.
The Second Chapter: "Stability" – Better to walk ten steps far than one step risky.
Admonition: All roads in the world are either big or small, but they are all roads. Some walk fast, some walk slow, some walk risky. Which road you take requires you to see what others have walked before and then decide for yourself.
1. The Fierce Man Steps Where He Should Not
22. Rain from the sky, slippery on the ground; each falls and crawls alone.
23. Where you fall, you know the ground is slippery.
24. Without hardship, you cannot become a Buddha.
25. The blessed do not fall into the unlucky.
26. New shoes, no stinking dog dung.
27. The fierce dog bites without showing teeth.
28. Using the heart, using the heart, harms oneself.
2. Breathe for a Moment, Then Breathe Again Later
30. Strike a palm, guard a foot.
31. The dragon mixes with the sea, the fish and shrimp suffer.
32. There is nothing that cannot be reached.
33. You have a thousand tricks, I have a fixed rule.
34. The thief is gone, the door is closed.
The Third Chapter: "Kindness" – Never make others dislike you when asking for help.
Admonition: People with no selfishness are rare, but those with selfishness cannot achieve great things. Be good to yourself first, then care for others. That is the best quality of being a person.
1. Asking for Help – Do It Properly
35. The sky falls, the earth supports.
36. Those who should not die have a savior.
37. The blessed do not hurry, the unlucky are exhausted.
38. The noisy sparrow does not fatten.
39. Step back and think, look back ten years.
2. Comfort Yourself – It Works
40. Winter lasts three months, early spring arrives.
41. People compare, people die of anger.
42. The fool celebrates the New Year by watching the neighbor.
43. Don't carry others' coffins to your own home to cry.
44. Everyone washes their face by themselves.
45. Your feet are straight, your shoes are crooked.
The Fourth Chapter: "Wealth" – Money Can't Bother You, But Lack of Money Can.
Admonition: Money is the pillar of life. For those who always want to make money, it is easy to fall into the trap of money and end up with nothing. The key to making money lies in "giving and taking wisely."
1. With or Without Money, Earn Every Day
46. Eating all the flavors of salt is good, walking the world is better than having a mother.
47. No place is the mother's home.
48. The rich man's eighth generation is big.
50. One family is warm, a thousand families are resentful.
2. Observe and Then Act
51. Those who go to the mountain are not all for worship.
52. The Guanyin Bodhisattva is eighteen every year.
53. There are always disputes, but if you don't listen, there are none.
54. The doctor treats the sick.
55. One spreads a lie, ten thousand spread the truth.
The Fifth Chapter: "Planning" – Survival Depends on Breath.
Admonition: For those who truly plan, they fear not poverty but lack of confidence in getting rich. As the saying goes, "The poor produce heroes," meaning this.
1. Love Yourself First, Then Others Will
56. Better to be called over than to miss the chance.
57. Fear not slowness, fear not standing still.
58. People do not deceive the earth, the earth does not deceive the belly.
2. A Little Hardship Is Nothing, As Long As It Brings Results
59. Ten thousand strings of wealth are not as good as one skill in hand.
60. Many skills do not weigh you down.
61. The land is planted by people, the play is sung by people.
62. Building a wall for a thousand days, tearing it down in one day.
63. Old things must go before new ones come.
64. Only when you are in charge do you know the value of firewood and rice.
The Sixth Chapter: "People" – Observe the Weather Outside, Look at the Face Inside.
Admonition: "The face" is as frightening as "the weather." To be good at reading people, you can avoid many unnecessary troubles and harm.
1. Everyone Has a Face
65. The gods descend to rule the land.
66. People fear respect, ghosts fear gifts.
67. Use a long cane when leaning, join strong companions.
2. Make Yourself Better Day by Day
68. Melon seeds are not full of human hearts.
69. Subtract years from people, add money to goods.
70. Observe the weather outside, look at the face inside.
71. Spreading rumors invites scolding.
72. Don't speak of shortness in front of the short.
73. Turtles do not laugh at toads, they rest in the mud.
74. To hit, look at the mother's face.
The Seventh Chapter: "Method" – There Is No Slow Axe, Only Un.
Admonition: Doing things without thinking is no different from not doing them. If you use "this axe to chop 'that' wood," it means thinking has taken effect. More thinking will reduce the detours in your life.
1. Think Once, No More Worries
75. There is no unpassable flame mountain.
76. Three houses are better than sitting in one.
2. Don't Weary Your Heart
77. Fire burns the house, pick foreign nails.
78. One loss teaches one lesson.
79. Use more soldiers than cleverly.
80. You have a door-closing trick, I have a wall-jumping method.
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