Not the child's fault at all: Educational insights from an "addiction recovery" expert

Author: Jia Rongtao
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Publish Date: 2006-03-01
Features: Every child can grow into a success, and every parent can become an expert. There are no unteachable children, only unskilled parents. Many parents, when faced with children who have already developed problems, do not actively seek solutions to save themselves but instead search for a magic pill to rescue their children, hoping for help from others. Some parents think: "My knowledge is limited, and I am helpless in educating my child. I can entrust their education to others and pay more money." My personal experience proves that in education, parents would be better off becoming experts in family education themselves rather than seeking help from education experts. In the face of unprecedented social changes, if parents' knowledge structure and parenting concepts are out of sync with the new era, and they still rely on their own parenting experience and rigid educational philosophies to educate children in the new era, various problems are bound to arise. Parenting children must keep pace with the times! If a child has already developed bad habits, parents must never give up on educating and saving them. Children with problems are precisely those who need love and help the most, and parents should show even more love and care, nurturing them with their whole hearts to warm the hearts that have frozen or been hurt by love. "Saving a life is better than building seven-story Buddhist pagodas," let alone saving one's own child! When students run into problems at school, some parents don't look inward to find the cause but instead focus solely on blaming the teachers, often going to the school to argue with teachers or even causing scenes of loud arguments. The educational outcomes of such approaches are easy to imagine.
This is the family education practice and insight of a "parent-style expert" from the frontline of family education. A father who once faced a family education crisis, when confronted with the reality of his child becoming a "net," underwent deep reflection and, adhering to the philosophy of "better becoming an expert in family education yourself than seeking help from education experts," devoted himself to researching family education. In the end, he became a nationally renowned family education expert and a "net" expert, helping countless parents and children in distress. His rich educational practices, profound and unique insights, and the journey of growing from an ordinary parent into a family education expert are worth learning from and referencing by every parent.