Where is the love wrong?

Author: He Quanfeng
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Publish Date: 2005-11-01
Features: Love keeps making mistakes, where is the error? The error lies in people never truly understanding that love is about giving, not receiving; love stems from sharing, not from need; it arises from abundance, not from lack. If you love someone because of what they possess, you are not truly loving them; you are loving the qualities instead. Let me tell you, loving those qualities is nothing extraordinary; you are merely loving what is missing or what you desire, do you understand? If you love someone because they are kind to you, then you are not loving the person themselves; you are actually loving yourself. When they stop being kind to you, your love fades, and even turns into hatred—how can that be called love? Look at how people love. Because you love them, you start to have expectations; you expect them to remain loyal forever, expect a lasting bond; you expect perfection, expect them to belong entirely to you; you expect them to change, to become like what you desire. If you consider all this as love, love will inevitably go wrong time and again, because your love is not genuine—it is merely a facade. They may look similar, and that is the problem. Everyone writes about love, yet love is gradually fading; people keep missing love, why? Because everyone has never truly understood—where does the error in love lie?