Envy

Author: Chen Xiaoqi Guni Di
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Publish Date: 2005-08-01
Features: Watching your child's sweet little face turn resentful due to jealousy can make your spine tingle—jealousy's rage is truly hard to chase away. One of the reasons most people find this frustrating is that we ourselves have had such experiences, but as adults, we are adept at locking the "jealousy monster" inside our hearts. When dealing with your child's jealousy, you must start from their perspective—you can only help them when you understand why they feel unhappy. There's also time and growth; in the first two years, they are "self-centered," meaning they revolve their world around themselves. They struggle to grasp the concept of sharing something or feeling with others. For example, if you want to let another child play with their toy, they might scream loudly, holding the toy in protest. As your child grows, you can help them understand what sharing is, like Dad hugging Mom, and so on. At the right time and in the right way—such as using imagination, empathy, or comforting words—you'll find that you can quickly dispel the clouds from your child's mind, restoring their peace and happiness! Jealousy can sometimes be intense, and at other times, it may even be hidden. Here are 99 strategies for common situations in life, hoping to help you.