Heidi's Sexology Report--Love Chapter: Love Chapter

Author: Sally Hirsh
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Publish Date: 2002-09-01
Features: Never has an academic report made people cry, waver, and get excited like "The Heidi Sex Reports." It exposes the silent inner workings of the world's sexuality, bringing the hidden world of men and women into the open. Sally Hirsh's third report, "The Love Report," is positioned clearly. It is a continuation of the two previous reports on male and female sexuality. In this report, Sally Hirsh listens to the heartfelt confessions of 4,500 women. Overall, we can see from this report that when a certain set of gender-discriminatory culture becomes fixed, it can cause immense harm to vulnerable women. The "emotional contract" between partners becomes distorted, as women are only expected to give, forcing them to endure further exploitation due to having given too much. Male partners, constrained, stereotypically in emotional giving, seemingly believing this is what a "real man" does. Deep down, they look down on their partners, their emotional cells stop growing, and they feel no remorse for harming them—seeing themselves as infallible kings. For female partners, this is a suffocating emotional world where there are no channels for communication, forcing them to engage in daily self-healing in the dark.