Words Parents Shouldn't Say: Be Wary of the Harm in Your Mouth

Author: Shao Zeshui Zhang Jianli
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Publish Date: 2003-07-01
Features: Based on the author's practical work experience and educational insights, this book draws on exemplary cases and advanced theories from both domestic and international sources. It provides an in-depth yet accessible exploration and analysis of the common misconceptions, methodological errors, and various difficulties that parents often encounter in daily life. The book also offers specific suggestions for parents to refer to in practical situations. Detailed content includes topics such as "absolutely things you should never say," "things you should say as little as possible," "innocent children," and "viewing failures calmly."
The emotional harm inflicted on children through language has long been overlooked. In reality, this kind of harm is more painful, more hidden, and more destructive than physical harm. The scars remain in the heart, invisible on the surface, yet causing lingering pain decades later, even transforming the injured person into someone who habitually harms others.
"Sharp tongue, soft heart"—parents often use this self-deprecation or as an excuse. Yet, they fail to realize that such harsh words turn a child's heart into rubble. Is there truly no better way to express oneself? "A fierce appearance hides a weak heart." Every word reflects the speaker's own mindset. From the things parents often say to their children, one can see that they are still conscientiously fulfilling their educational duties, yet they know little about modern educational concepts. For the sake of their children and themselves, every parent needs to learn.