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Author: Deborah Tannen
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Publish Date: 2004-12-01
Features: In this eye-opening book, Professor Tannen reveals why family conversations are often ambiguous, leading to misunderstandings and resentment among members. Why do we find it so difficult to communicate with family, even though we are all adults? When we expect signals of approval and belonging, what we often perceive are messages of disapproval or rejection. Why do we receive endless criticism and opinions despite the deep bond of family love? In this book, Tannen helps readers realize the importance of separating the literal meaning (message) of words from the intended meaning (implication) in family conversations. Implication refers to the layer of meaning that is not explicitly stated but is understood through long-term interactions and habitual ways of speaking. This layer is rich in connotations. By citing real-life conversations from daily life, Tannen demonstrates what is actually being discussed in family interactions, including the need to balance dominance and closeness when both parties try to be closer yet unwilling to give up their freedom. This enlightening book explains why adult women often feel their mothers are overly critical, and why mothers frequently struggle to know what to say to grown daughters. It also explores why adult men or women, or older (younger) siblings, experience completely different family dynamics throughout their lives. By helping readers understand and redefine family conversations, Professor Tannen provides tools and methods to improve relationships among family members of different ages.