8 Seeds for Cultivating Love

Author: Zhang Chunrong Zhang Lin
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Publish Date: 2004-05-01
Features: Love is a lesson not taught in school, which has caused shortcomings in our lives. This book makes a remarkable contribution to this shortcoming. Its gold value, the spiritual power it contains, is awe-inspiring. The book highlights the 8 seeds needed to cultivate perfect love, worthy of possession and preservation by everyone, especially young people.
Excerpt: Using praise to motivate and encourage your partner "In fact, everyone is two people," wrote Sir Charles Caleb Colton, "one is his true self, and the other is his ideal self." The duty of a lover is to help their partner become the ideal version of themselves. Don't be critical, don't compare them to the neighbor's someone, and don't try to make them work excessively. Instead, encourage them gently, praise them, and cheer them on. Unfortunately, some people are determined to make their partners exceed their capabilities and become the image they imagine. These people desire to be richer than others, drive new cars, wear expensive clothes, join various clubs, and as a result, their partners never have a chance to meet their needs. How should we encourage someone to improve and become the ideal version of themselves? Give them motivation and praise, and identify their talents that they can showcase. If they need to build confidence, we can point out the brave things they have done. "Remember that time when you told your boss how to reduce waste in your department? That really took a lot of courage—truly amazing, you did it!" Hearing such words, even the most timid person would open up their heart to try harder. If a woman tells him she thinks he is capable, he would go further to believe that perhaps he can actually be braver—and then he would do just that.
Joe was injured in the war, leaving his legs scarred. One day, he and his wife went to the beach for a vacation. After some simple surfing, he lay on the sand to enjoy the sun. Soon, he noticed everyone staring at him. He had never paid attention to his scarred legs before, but now he knew they were too noticeable. The next Sunday, his wife suggested going to the beach again, but he refused, saying he would rather stay home. But his wife said to him, "Joe, the scars on your legs are badges of your courage—you have earned them honorably. Don't try to hide them. Remember how you got them and be proud of them. Now, let's go—let's go swimming." He went, and his wife had removed the shadow from his heart. He might even have a better start.