Patient's question:
My partner only experiences clitoral redness and swelling at the end of her menstrual period, with symptoms similar to those of estrus, and shows proactive sexual interest. Additionally, she generally dislikes my sexual advances, which has led to a noticeable decline in my libido over the past few years. Moreover, I tend to ejaculate quickly, with only 2-3 sexual encounters per month.How many times is considered normal for a woman aged 37-40 to have sexual activity per month? And what about men of the same age?
Doctor's answer:
This frequency is the same for both men and women. For those aged 31-40, it's best not to exceed twice a week. Modern sexology considers three main criteria for judging normal sexual frequency:1. Sexual desire arises naturally and is strong enough to lead to intercourse. Any forced or perfunctory sexual activity is excessive.
2. The entire sexual process occurs naturally and completes without discomfort. As long as there is no physical or psychological discomfort, it is considered normal.
3. Post-coital feelings the next day serve as a judgment standard. If both partners feel refreshed, energetic, motivated at work, undisturbed sleep, and experience great physical and mental pleasure, with no impact on the next day’s life or work, it is normal. If the next day brings fatigue, lethargy, drowsiness, shortness of breath, dizziness, aching waist and legs, decreased appetite, and impairment of daily life or work, it is excessive and requires self-regulation.
Your situation is due to my harmonious influence. You need to prepare foreplay to make her feel that sex is still a wonderful thing, and then she’ll love it!
1. Gently hold her hand and kiss the back of her fingers.
2. Turn her hand over, palm up. Keep your mouth closed and gently press your lips against the softest part of her palm. Slowly move toward her wrist, until your lips feel her pulse.
3. Start with her lower lip. Similarly, keep your lips lightly closed and gently press her lower lip between yours.
4. Use the same method to lightly touch her upper lip, neck, earlobe, and eyelids with your lips in order.
5. Kiss all over her body, focusing on intimate areas: inner thighs, knee creases, behind the earlobes, and the upper side of the chest (not the nipples).
6. Once you’ve located her secret garden, instead of directly stimulating her clitoris, spend more time treating her labia with one or two fingers. Slowly and patiently rub her labia, indirectly stimulating her desire.
7. Next, use your thumb and index finger to spread her labia and gently caress her clitoris and the inner labia. Avoid directly stimulating the clitoris.
8. Observe and confirm she’s highly aroused: hard nipples, rapid breathing, and a prominent clitoris.