Patient's question:
Heartache,Doctor's answer:
Hello, this is a good way to educate children.I. Pleasing
Since childhood, parents have taught children that the most valuable reward is gaining others' approval. As a result, to please their parents, children become submissive and follow orders. To gain their teachers' favor, children study diligently and behave properly. When children try to act according to their own wishes, they are accused of being selfish. In their young minds, they struggle to distinguish right from wrong just to earn others' praise.
Although children know that striving for success requires some self-centered measures, they still continue to be good. This is actually a disguised and concealed behavior. Children often hide their care for themselves and their concern for others, continuing to give up the right to act according to their own wishes to gain others' approval. Because they don't want to conflict or challenge others, nor do they want to disrupt the deeply rooted views in their hearts about right and wrong, children often suppress unfair treatment by others, endure silently, and comfort themselves with a sense of spiritual superiority.
II. Weakness
Parents often use high-pressure methods to strictly discipline their children. When children make mistakes, they only receive harsh scolding or even a beating. Over time, children develop fear of their parents and dare not share their thoughts with them, making emotional connection even rarer.
Some parents never let their children solve problems independently, always wanting to take over and avoid taking risks.