Patient's question:
My son is three and a half years old. Sometimes he speaks in a very low voice, and when I ask him questions, even though he knows the answers, he often says he doesn't know. Whenever he makes a mistake, as long as I scold him loudly, his tears come immediately. He is a bit timid, and when kids at kindergarten hit him, he doesn't fight back or tell the teacher. Please help me.Doctor's answer:
In life, you have done too much for him, taking over too many things, such as putting on shoes, putting on socks, washing his towels, putting away his toys, and so on. When the child wants to show his abilities, you might not have encouraged him, or even feared that he might not do well or get hurt. Out of good intentions, you ended up doing more harm. Your attitude constantly tells him, "He's too young, he can't do anything well." This is a form of negative education. If it continues for a long time, he will lose confidence in himself, develop a timid, fearful, and restrained personality, become overly cautious, unassertive, and introverted. The period from 0 to 6 years old is the first critical period for personality development, so it must not be neglected. I suggest buying a few books on family education to read, which will be helpful for raising your child. Wishing the little baby healthy growth!