Teacher, please don't worry about the child.

Author: Yan Xingfang
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: This book thoroughly analyzes, through numerous examples, the various erroneous concepts and approaches toward success held by parents, teachers, and students under the flawed standards and guiding principles of success. It warns that only three out of a thousand people are exceptionally intelligent, and not everyone who wishes for their child to excel will achieve it. There is no mathematical model for success standards. If one insists on such a model, it must be acknowledged that these standards are constantly evolving with societal development. Both families and schools should adapt to the trends of the times and view this "standard" with a developmental, dialectical, and materialist perspective to properly guide children toward success.
Imagine that an increasing number of young people are reluctant to marry, unwilling to have children, insist on property agreements before marriage, and explicitly state their refusal to live with their elders. For them, the prosperity of their family is simply not within their considerations. Their pursuit is more about personal independence, individual development, future growth opportunities, and their own interests. Therefore, in the long journey of life, each person's direction will be different, and it should be different. Even if everyone is moving in the same direction, there have been countless examples throughout history and across cultures of those who achieved success later in life. The key is to lay a solid foundation from a young age, strengthen their qualities, learn how to be a person and how to do things, and focus on improving their sustainable development capabilities.
On the other hand, if one's focus is solely on a child's exam scores or rankings, or if one is constantly dwelling on "past issues," it is simply too short-sighted. If they start late or stumble along the way, shouldn't they be given more encouragement and cheers—shouted a resounding "Come on!"? Falling behind at the starting line does not mean they will never recover; otherwise, the rules of the game would need to be changed—after all, it doesn’t matter who reaches the finish line first, only who leaves the starting point first! Moreover, how many people in life’s long race are not just participating for the sake of participation?
In conclusion, if families and schools truly want what is best for their children, they should possess the following mindset and qualities: less eagerness for immediate results, more serendipitous success; less forcing growth, more guiding with the flow; less imposing on others, more putting oneself in their shoes. If this is the case, everyone will live happier and more successful lives.