What do you really want---A Survey on the Marriage and Love of the First Generation of Only-Children in China

Author: Yu Xiuzhu
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Publish Date: 2007-01-18
Features: In this book, Yu Xiuzhu, a renowned author and expert in family quality education, tells the stories and experiences of 12 only children and their parents through oral interviews based on her years of research. Among them are a middle-aged man who went on nearly 100 blind dates without success, a master's graduate who entered marriage but added more pressure to her parents, a female Ph.D. who married a wealthy man for material wealth only to find that money doesn't guarantee happiness, and a boy who never understood the concept of "loyalty" and caused deep emotional harm to others. These real-life stories reflect the profound impact and shock that the current uncertain social atmosphere has on the life philosophies, values, and views on marriage of young people, as well as their parents. What reflections should we draw from this? What responsibilities should schools, families, and societal opinions bear in addressing the romantic and marital issues of only children? How should parents adjust their educational methods and philosophies to help their children build happy marriages and fulfilling lives? I believe that every reader of this book will gain insights into life through these vivid examples. Love between people truly continues through mutual giving and care. The unique upbringing environment of only children, their lack of exposure to setbacks, the systematic absence of humanities education, the still-developing moral standards in society, and the pursuit of generational evolution all contribute to their growth and moral lapses. The pursuit of material wealth is endless, while youth and life are finite. No matter how brilliant your career may be, you will ultimately return to family and kinship. Before its publication, one of the chapters was posted on the author's blog and received over 40,000 clicks in a single day. The risks of matchmaking websites and the questionable integrity of the matchmaking industry have led to spontaneous parent meetups in parks for their children's romantic matches. Why do middle-aged men, despite numerous blind dates, still fail to find their soulmates? Trial marriages have become excuses for some men to frequently change girlfriends. What kind of behavior is this, after all?