Patient's question:
Patient Age: Three years old, I would like to consult you about the issues of getting along with the child. My son is three years old. Since he was very young, he has been very close to his grandmother. When he sees his grandmother, he doesn't want to go back. He doesn't care much about his mother. How can I gain the child's most beloved person? Because the grandmother has always played with the child according to her mood. When she is not in a good mood, she will hide. The child doesn't want to be with me either, and it makes the child cry every day.Treatment history and effectiveness: I am a full-time mother, and the grandmother lives very close. I have to avoid the child every day, otherwise I will be stuck with the child. What kind of help I care about: How can I make the child's feelings for the grandmother more neutral, not too attached, because this has already brought many troubles to our lives.
Doctor's answer:
A three-year-old child is more sensitive to the tone and expressions of their family members. Grandmother will show more patience in accompanying the child. However, "Grandmother lives nearby and has to avoid the child every day, otherwise the child will cling to her," this can create a certain sense of fear in the child who has always been very attached to her grandmother. The child feels the lack of security when they cannot see her grandmother, which is the root cause of the child's crying. It is recommended to have both grandmother and mother accompany the child together. During the time spent with the child, the mother should actively participate in the play between grandmother and child, becoming a common friend to both.