Mechanics of Adaptation: The Ultimate Guide to the Wisdom of Random Adaptation

Author: Gao Ruying (Compiler)
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Publish Date: 2006-07-01
Features: "My boss is a woman"—Is this a reason for you to quit? In real-world work, many job seekers resign because they cannot tolerate their female bosses' personalities. In fact, are female bosses really that unpleasant? Or is it the subordinates who have gender discrimination? After investigation, it was found that most subordinates cannot tolerate isn't the "female" boss, but the "emotional" boss. "Emotional" is a major taboo for being a boss. When you're in a bad mood, your work efficiency and judgment ability are significantly reduced, and you'll unconsciously frown, making those around you feel uncomfortable. As your subordinate, of course, you'd want to avoid contact. If your low mood only occurs occasionally, there's still room for improvement; if it happens frequently, your subordinates will gradually distance themselves from you. The so-called "deserted by friends and relatives" often originates from this. You must understand that will make you lose control. Although you know it's unwise and inappropriate to scold subordinates in public, if you happen to be in a bad mood and your subordinates' foolishness adds to your troubles, you'll be more prone to making mistakes. A subordinate who is publicly humiliated won't change because of it, while those around you will secretly despise you. There are many conditions to be a boss who is well-liked by subordinates, but the first step is to always maintain a happy and balanced mood. Emotions are contagious; the more positive and healthy your emotions, the more you can motivate your subordinates. Some people believe that emotional instability is innate and unchangeable, but this is not true. First, you need to understand whether you are an emotional person, and then you can face the problem head-on. You must learn to change your emotions. So, how can you change your emotions? Through self-hypnosis, one can transform a gloomy mood into a positive and cheerful one. A female friend of mine who works as an insurance broker always maintains a cheerful smile and a determined spirit, regardless of whether it's sunny or rainy, whether she is accepted or rejected, or whether her business is good or bad. It turns out she has a secret weapon: every morning when she leaves home, she faces the mirror and praises herself, such as: "I'm great today!" "I guarantee you'll succeed today!" "I have good luck today!" and so on, before then energetically going out. On particularly tiring days, she even makes a conscious effort to dress up and doesn't forget to remove unnecessary items from her briefcase before leaving home to reduce the burden. This kind of work attitude helped her quickly advance from an ordinary agent to a supervisor. This shows the great power of self-hypnosis. A successful supervisor is often also someone who is good at self-control. Life has ups and downs, but we cannot be swept away by the waves and let the surrounding environment control us. If you feel mentally drained as soon as you leave home in the morning, that's a very dangerous sign: you may be labeled as an "emotional boss" by your subordinates at any moment. You should immediately turn back, face the mirror, and use self-hypnosis to shift your mood, then take a more ordinary means of transportation to work, such as taking the subway if you normally drive. The goal is to make yourself feel comfortable and reduce stress. When you return to the office, if you still feel unable to shake off your low mood, it's best to temporarily avoid supervisory tasks, as you may not be able to convey healthy emotions and messages at this time. You should choose some tasks that can be handled alone, such as paperwork, allowing the satisfaction of completing the work to drive you back to a healthy mood. P3-4