Patient's question:
Detailed medical condition and consultation purpose: I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and everything is normal between us. However, during sexual activity, I have no sensation at all. The foreplay is long enough, and I can feel something, but it disappears as soon as it starts. At the same time, I experience a feeling of needing to urinate, and sometimes my labia minora hurt. I don’t know what the reason is. Now, I’m losing interest more and more. If this continues for a long time, even the best relationship won’t work.Previous diagnosis and treatment history and effectiveness: I’ve consulted a doctor, but they haven’t given a definitive diagnosis.
Doctor's answer:
Women have sex because of love, so if you say you haven't fallen in love with him yet, that is the fundamental reason for the lack of sexual harmony. Since you have been married for several years and don't want to divorce, you should reflect on yourself, communicate more with him, and realize that the main issue lies within you.Suggestions:
Actually, the main problem is likely having too high expectations for sexual love. Try shifting your focus, engage in more foreplay before intimacy, and increase emotional communication. This should resolve the issue.
Lifestyle Care:
If your husband has issues with endurance during intimacy, consider adding more foreplay during ML sessions. You can also experiment with changes and use to enhance his desire.