I want to ask if the first time having sex will be very painful?

Patient's question:

I want to ask if the first time having sex will be very painful?

Doctor's answer:

Hello
This issue primarily concerns the female side. A virgin's first sexual experience, accompanied by the tearing of the hymen and contractions of the vagina, is a deeply unforgettable experience both physiologically and psychologically. Therefore, for men, it is a test of whether you are a good husband or a good boyfriend. Psychologically, you need to provide her with enough comfort. Love her, console her. Tell her that this is an essential step to becoming a true woman. If she says no, you must never force her. More importantly, you must never resort to the foolish act of rape. This not only harms her but also prevents you from experiencing pleasure, leaving only a release.
Then, when she hesitantly agrees, what position should you use for intercourse? There is no fixed rule. However, considering the protection of the female (since the pain of tearing the hymen is unavoidable), it is recommended to use the following method: The woman lies flat on the edge of the bed with her legs raised high. The man stands in front of the woman, between her legs, on the floor. This sexual position has the following advantages: The penis can penetrate the hymen with the slightest force.
The first time should end here. Do not engage in vigorous thrusting. The girl will only feel pain. Wait until the next time. Regarding this point, you can refer to Malthus Garcia's Love in the Time of Cholera, where the male protagonist, on his wedding night, to alleviate his wife's fear of sexual intercourse, deliberately allowed her to admire his penis all night without having sex.
Very experienced lovers can also use this method for regular intercourse. This position also has the advantage that it is easier for the man to exert force. This position can also be modified appropriately, for example: by having the woman place her legs on...